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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This thread is a great example of internalized misogyny. Why are so many of you assuming it is the bride that, unilaterally, decided it would be a child-free wedding? Even if it were the bride's suggestion, it's a decision the couple made.

How can so many of you get to the age you have and STILL not recognize that what you prefer is not someone else's preference, what you can afford, someone else can't or what you believeva wedding constitutes (or should be) isn't shared by everyone?

Calling brides narcissists because a wedding is child-free is just sour grapes and doesn't reflect well on you. I sincerely hope those who do don't consider themselves feminists because you really aren't respecting choice.
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Please... do you really think men are driving most wedding plans?  I'm a NP, but many in the U.S. have totally lost the thread on weddings.  They were traditionally a celebration (and a witness by members of their community of their covenant) with friends and family.  Now they are viewed as a performance where your guests are "extras" who must dress, behave and gift according to your instructions.  Excluding children is a choice, but not one that reflects well on the couple. [b] If kids are "inappropriate" in your formal venue, think about another setting.  If kids are "too expensive" to feed, then think about a different type of reception.[/b]  If you all plan to be too drunk to have kids in the same room, think about your self control and ideas of "fun".[/quote]
Why? Why do I need to adjust MY wedding because your kids are inappropriate for the setting, and your 12 cousins are too expensive to feed? Just because it's a celebration doesnt mean everyone and their dog needs to be invited. It sounds like youre saying "if you cant afford a 500 person wedding, you dont deserve to get married or have a wedding YOU want!" Weddings are about the [i]couple getting married[/i], the guests are just invited to witness and enjoy the food and drink after. You sound completely unhinged, expecting couples to cater their wedding to YOUR tastes. Entitled much?[/quote]

You are exactly who I was discussing earlier in the post.  The wedding is NOT just about you.  It is about your relationship being supported by your community.  You are prioritizing aesthetics and ambiance over people.[/quote]
Uh no, my wedding was not about my community. My wedding was about my spouse and I joining our lives together. That can be done at a courthouse, on a mountain top, at a church or at a fancy country club.

Stop expecting others to cater their events to your requirements, it’s entitled and rude. [/quote]

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