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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DD has said she was a teen that she didn't want kids. Ha-ha ok you will change your mind is what everyone always told her. No, she's never wavered. She's in her late 20s and has been married for 3 years now (with her husband for 8 years total). She just told me that she found a doctor who was willing to do a tubal ligation so she could be done with birth control. It felt like a gut punch when she told me.

DS is in his early 30s and is getting married this fall. He's been with his fiancée for 4 years and they too have told us they have zero desire for kids. I thought for sure they would have kids as she's an elementary teacher and works at a kids camp in the summer.

How do I get over these feelings of failure? I know I raised great kids but at the same time, I feel like both are being selfish and it makes me angry. Is this something therapy helps with? 
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So sorry OP yea this is a terrible failure but it’s their failure not yours. I hope your daughter can get her act together r before she ruins her chances of having a life!!!
My life was amazing before kids and I never wanted them. Then early 30s and a switch flipped and I had my boys. They are the light of my life!!! Seeing them grow gives me a joy nothing else could. Seeing them with my mom is the best thing ever. 
Having kids is one of those things that you have to do it to know how amazing it is and how important it is, if you don’t know, you simply can’t know. You’re going to have to get therapy or figure something out to help you heal and move forward from this horrific disappointment from your terrible children. You can still love them and hope that they have an amazing life and be able to compartmentalize this disappointment. In the end, you did your job, and they will have to live with this bitter disappointment and vast emptiness of a meaningless life for the rest of theirs.[/quote]

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