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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I gave up a few pages in.

OP - I get it.  A lot of PPs are basically saying that you aren't allowed to have feelings about anything and your husband NEVER has to compromise.  They are yelling at you to be more diplomatic but really don't bother because you just have to suck everything up.

But I get it.  Because I bet you were diplomatic in the past.  I'll bet when the relationship was new, you framed things in a nice way as a request and seeking compromise.  And you got nowhere.  And now you're fed up.

Marriage is about compromise and caring about the other person.  If the other person NEVER compromises and NEVER takes your feelings into account, how is that acceptable.  When you are on the receiving end of that, you stop feeling like being diplomatic or just shrugging it off for the 10 millionth time and you get annoyed by a stupid plate.[/quote]

Not buying this at all.  People who are even saying OP was 1% right are off.  OP raised the issue of workload in a much later post.  It does not ring true and seems to be cover for the pounding she is taking.  Objectively there is nothing wrong with what her DH did.  This is not the hill she dies on.  They need a marriage counselor or this will not last.  But this example is not what she should run in with.  It seems like movie and night together and maybe get frisky.  Anyone who would allow a plate to mess that up is off -- that is why the reaction is like it is.  And to bring it up the next morning is the type of thing that will make the husband think this thing might be over.  [/quote]

OP clarified the larger issue is workload a whole 27 minutes after her original post.  That is hardly much later.  [/quote]

After 20 negative posts.  [/quote]

Obviously she figured out something she'd omitted from her OP.  It happens.   Welcome to DCUM![/quote]

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