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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Backward reasoning.

1. The reason mothers of 4 are generally happier than mother of 3, is that they wanted a large family all along, and got it. Not that they ended up with a large family by accident, and then found out that it was "easier".

[b]2. I know lots of people who had to parent their little siblings. Most of them don't have kids of their own, because of the psychological toll it took on their childhoods.[/b]

3. While I would have loved a large family, my oldest was born with special needs. Parenting him was a full time job, and I missed my fertile window to expand beyond 2. But I certainly wouldn't have forced my oldest kids to parent the younger kids!

4. This man is a moron.
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Absolutely this. Go ahead and have 5 kids if you're going to have real adults taking care of them 90% of the time.[/quote]

+1 This.   If you've got the money to foist your kids on nannies great.  If you have the money to have a SAHD or SAHM with talent for kids, great.  But 2 working parents without means having all those kids because of reasons of faith (no birth control) or by accident is a recipe for disaster.[/quote]

Even the best SAHM cannot take care of say 4 kids under 7 competently. Nobody can. [/quote]

Says someone who thinks it’s fine to sends their kids to a daycare/preschool with a 8:1 ratio.  
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No judgment but I actually did not send my child to daycare until they were older in part because I didn’t like that ratio. Also daycare is 8 hrs/day, not all day, and the care workers have no duties other than attending to the babies. Very different from a mom with a newborn, preschooler, toddler, and a bunch of older kids to manage, plus housework.

I posted above numerous studies on large families having poor outcomes for children. It’s simple physics- just not enough parental resources that kids need to thrive. [/quote]

Meh. Besides the daycare example, kindergarten teachers watch 24 kids plus for 8 hours a day.  I think it's likely a competent SAHP could manage up 5-8 kids reasonably well.  The SAHP may be tired but they don't have the stress of working out of the home and presumably the other parent would be around to help with the kids and housework when they're not at work.[/quote]

Spoken like someone who has never lived in that kind of household. Kindergarten is 4-6 hours not all day. I think you literally have no understanding of this. [/quote]

DP.  We are Catholic, have 5 kids, and know many families with similar numbers of children.  Of course these parents competently care for their children.  They might not cook elaborate meals or exercise every day or have perfectly decorated homes or be self actualized or any of the other things that DCUM believes parents should be doing.  But they care for their children and maintain their homes.  
Their lives are just very child centric.  All big decisions (home, career, etc) are done with the children in mind.  
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I’m one of six and we are reasonably close as adults. But there is no question there was some neglect and as adults we have all had to grapple with that. I know very few kids raised in large families who chose that path themselves, including none of my siblings. [/quote]

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