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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a widow - since kids were young- and I do not wish this life on anyone. [/quote]

You would if you had an abusive marriage: would love nothing better than living life with just me and my kids. That is far better than a horrible marriage or having to coparent with someone you never want to speak to again. [/quote]

Can you please not say this to a widow? We are traumatized enough as it is without your projections. I am sorry for anyone's trauma about an abusive marriage, but please extend kindness to others' situations without inserting a different narrative. Being in an abusive marriage is terrible. Being a widow is terrible. Leave it at that, please.[/quote]

Can you please not bring up your widow-hood to those who wish they were widowed? It is triggering. We are traumatized enough without your self-righteous feelings. I'm sorry for your loss, but stop flaunting your happy marriage and devestating loss. How about you just don't read the threads that don't seem relevant to you?[/quote]

Ain't that right? Why were these self-righteous women in their high horses even reading this thread in the first place?? And just newsflash, we do not outright wish death upon our spouses, NO! we just simply daydream of becoming alone and be rid of the shackles of marriage with awful husbands! Divorce you say?? Well, do you guarantee that it will all be rainbows and sunshine after you go separate ways? didn't think so.. You do not know how I walk in these shoes same way I don't in yours and sorry for your loss but, again this thread and this question is not meant for you people who are in fact grieving and is irrelevant to what you are going through[/quote]

NP here.  Maybe you can explain to people how you reside with someone, in the same house, whom you so clearly despise.  Surely it would be worse to be apart, and to start your life over? What are your fears? That no one will want you? That you will be alone? Broke? Both? Something else? Trying to imagine feeling this way, yet refusing to take steps to change the situation, and live a healthier, more fulfilling life. Why did you marry? To check a box?  [/quote]

The fantasy is to be apart and start over.  
I mean, you could say that I wish for him to disappear or to move away and forget about me and the kids.  [/quote]

Yes. I wish he would move to a foreign country with a new wife and family and just forget us. Or die. [/quote]

I used to wish my ex would have an affair and leave us alone. [/quote]

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