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[quote=Anonymous]NO- haven’t read the whole thread but did read your original post. I’m sorry and this is hard. Have you had any discussions with DH at all? Sounds like it should start there. He may not really know how hard it is for you. Keep the focus on you not on her so he can hear you.

Another thought is to put a lock on your bedroom door. Just a doorknob kind so no big deal. She can have access to the house but not your room. Spend as much time in there as you like when she’s there. It will also solve the laundry issue for you.

Put more parameters on when she can come. I have a lot of friends whose parents live very far away and so come for extended stays. But they can stretch out the in between times once they are gone.

Start asking her to do things for you. Make requests of what she can do and see how it goes.

You can tolerate a lot but not her temper. You can tell her that if she is overtly yelling she will be asked to leave the house. That could be a red line for you. That could be a red line for your dh.

Make social plans for yourself or you and dh while she is there so that you aren’t home every night.

Good luck. It is very hard if DH can’t/wont stand up for you. Don’t get divorced over this. You should otherwise content. [/quote]

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