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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, once she hits 30 days without cooperating in sex, she’s de facto opened the relationship. [/quote]

Agree 100% you have our permission now go out and get laid! She wants to be your room mate treat her as such.[/quote]
ultimatums really don't work. I guess you are both ok with divorcing.[/quote]

Know what else doesn’t work? Status quo sexless marriage. Why would they divorce?!? She’s perfectly content and once he’s found a girlfriend or 2 on the side their marriage will be perfect. Another sexless marriage saved by outsourcing.[/quote]

Famous last words, right before you get served with divorce papers. [/quote]
Mature adults who take marriage seriously do not divorce over trivial unimportant things. His wife says sex is not important: so no big deal when he does that unimportant thing with other women.[/quote]

He doesn’t want his daughter to see him as a gross cheater. So he has to…not cheat. Can’t get everything you want all the time. [/quote]

His wife has opted out of the sex part of marriage which means "cheating" no longer exists. What kind of sick family are you in where your kids know details about your sex life (or lack thereof)?!?[/quote]

When they divorce because OP cheats, his daughter will find out he cheated. His OP says he doesn’t want his daughter to see him like that, so that option is unavailable to him.

…and no, his daughter will not care about his sad sad sex life when he wrecks her childhood home.[/quote]

OP doesn’t need to divorce if he cheats. Many families turn a blind eye. It would certainly be an expectation for a wife who doesn’t want to have sex anymore. Outsource and have a pleasant life.[/quote]

He does if his wife hasn’t agreed.

And then when the daughter asks why they divorced, she will tell her daughter it was because of infidelity.  Divorce for cause doesn’t give a darn about “she didn’t have enough sex for me”.

So if the OP is truly concerned his daughter not see him as a cheater, he has no choice but to not cheat.

To deal with his sex issue he needs to make himself someone his wife finds sexually desirable. Most people who come here to complain don’t want to put in that work. [/quote]

There is nothing for her to agree to. She is sexless so she does not get to vote on him opening the marriage. She is free to leave and divorce but she won’t (because she says sex isn’t important and people don’t divorce over unimportant things).

Again his daughter is not involved with their sex life so why do you keep bringing up this non-issue?[/quote]

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