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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]To the people who say that the odds are that a child isn't going to be molested when unaccompanied in a locker room. The odds are that you can swim in an outdoor pool while holding a metal rod in your hands and not be struck by lightning. The odds are that you can drive your car without wearing your seat belt and still live. The odds are you can ride a motorcycle without wearing a helmet and still live. But would you really want to do those things? Better safe than sorry! [/quote]

To evaluate risk you need to understand how likely something is. You, or another pp, keep saying there is a 1 in 100 chance of a kid changing in the men's room being molested.  In 2011 there were 26 people who died being struck by lightening. There were no reports of kids molested while changing in pool locker rooms while their moms waited outside. [/quote]

How do you know that there weren't any cases of a child being molested while a mother waited outside? Really, how do you know that? Are you God? Fact, you don't know that. Also a fact, there have indeed been cases of children being molested or killed while a mother waited outside. Don't believe that? Look it up. It's been reported on reputable news shows.

But some of you think it's preferable that a child be harmed than to have the child see your daughters "boobies" for a second. [b]Because we all know how harmful it is to see a pair of breasts. [/b]  :roll:

Maybe there are some Jerry Sandusky's lurking on here that want to make sure that little boys are still sent into men's locker rooms?[/quote]

So you'd be fine if you were forced to get naked in front of your male coworkers and let them stare because they're just curious?

And again, it's not all about your kid.  I don't think your kid will be harmed by seeing my naked daughter.  I think my daughter will be harmed!  Your son doesn't get to violate my daughter. Follow the damn rules.[/quote]

There's no comparison between me being nude in front of a man that's not my husband when there's no reason or benefit to be, and anyone of any age being briefly seen by a small child in the name of protecting that child. If (And this is ridiculous) my child would be safe because I was nude in front of a man other than my husband, then you damn well bet that I'd be willing to be seen nude by that man.

My daughters are nude in that very same locker room that my son is in. And it wouldn't bother me at all if another woman brought her little boy into the locker room while my daughters were showering or changing. And it wouldn't bother them either.

Do you not take your children to the doctor because she or he may be embarrassed by being seen nude by the doctor?

Trust me, your daughter would not be HARMED by a little boy seeing her nude in the locker room. She may not like it, but she would NOT be HARMED by it. And like I said, my son does NOT stare at anyone when he's in the locker room with us. Many of you keep saying what if a little boy saw one of his female classmates nude while he was in the locker room. Well, that already happened with my son and one of the little girls from his class last year, and her mother, and it wasn't an issue for any of us involved. My son, daughters and myself all stood there showering and talking to the little girl and her mom, and no one cared at all.

[b]I'm done talking about this[/b].[/quote]

That's a shame. Because you haven't explained why you refuse to pick a course of action that protects your son AND other people's daughters, like having your son change at home or in the car, waiting until your DH can come with, or choosing pools with family changing rooms.  Care to explain before you storm off in a huff?[/quote]

OK, I'll answer this last one and then I'm done.

I have already posted that there are only two ways into the pool and back out again. One way is through the men's locker room, and the other is through the women's locker room. Even the staff have to enter and exit through the locker rooms.

I could have my son put on his swimsuit at home. That would be fine. But he has to come in with my daughters and I while we shower and then put on our swimsuits. The pool has rather strict rules that they do enforce that everyone is required to take a nude soap shower in the locker room before entering the pool. They are far stricter about that than they are age limits of children being in opposite gender locker rooms. I know that because they have been known on many occasions to have spotted someone trying to skip the pre-swim shower, and instructed them to go back, get undressed and shower, or leave. I know that on more than one occasion an employee of the pool has seen my son exiting the women's locker room on his way to the pool, and no one has ever said a word about it.

And whereas it would be fine with me if my son arrived to the pool already in his swimsuit, he has to change out of his swimsuit in the locker room, dry off, and get dressed again.

I know that no one is going to change my mind or actions, and it would appear that I'm not going to change your opinions. Thank God that it would appear that none of you go to the same pool that I take my children to. No one at that pool seems to have any problem with a little boy being in the women's locker room. I have to wonder if a lot of the posts being made complaining about my son are being made by just the same 2 or 3 people over and over?

End of conversation. For me, anyway.[/quote]

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