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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am fortunate in that my DH is a very organized and equal partner.  He does at least 50 percent of everything, and is an amazing cook.  He makes about 55 percent of our income.

[b]However, our son (age 20) has ADHD, and I pray for his future wife.[/b]  I know our son just cannot do so many of the things that my DH automatically does.  So I hope to be able to pay for a weekly house cleaner for them, as well as helping them with a down payment on the house.  I will try to support them in whatever way possible.

Forgive me if this has already been suggested, but can you hire outside help to make things any easier for you?  Is there a family member who could come in and help with some things?

Or perhaps try the Serenity Prayer?  (I use this a lot in my life, and find it pretty helpful.)

I'm sure others have suggested this, but keep in mind that the person with ADHD often feels pretty bad that they are not doing more.  So I'm sure that it's a challenge to be sympathetic to your DH, but my guess is that he feels pretty bad.  Perhaps just don't be too hard on him?  [/quote]

You should do more than that. You should 1) encourage him not to get married or have kids, and 2) educate any potential DILs about what they would have to deal with, so at least they are not flying blind. Paying for a house cleaner and downpayment is nothing in the grand scheme of things. Some people should just not procreate.[/quote]

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