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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would have hated, absolutely HATED to move between houses in the middle of the week. Thankfully my parents lived 2 hours apart and I would stay with him from Friday to Sunday, and once I got older, every other weekend, plus holiday weekends.

And those days there weren’t cell phoned, FaceTime, texting and such.

I had a VERY close relationship with BOTH my parents.[/quote]

So, basically your dad missed out on the important things and you are ok with that.  You might be but other kids may not be.  [/quote]

What important stuff are you alluding to? Graduations? Science fair and the like?

Anyway, he came when it was important to me. He always came.

As I said, I had a great relationship with both my parents, independently of being shuffled around back and forth in the middle of the week and, later on, every weekend. My father put my happiness and well being first and, when I was older and started to have my own social life, he didn’t demand my presence every weekend.

He had many defects, but I have NEVER doubt his absolute love for me.

Maybe the fact that I was already 11 when they separated and by then I had already formed a strong bond with him helped the situation.

BOTH my parents had MY best interest and we even spent a few holidays together: my mother, me, my father, his new wife and her daughter. My mother was THAT gracious to host all of them, including overnights.

My point is, you don’t need 50/50 to have a good relationship with your child. If you are truly invested, you can make it work with less physical time - as long as you put in the emotional commitment to it.

MOST of the time I spent with my  father consisted of discussing/TALKING about my school life, my friends and friends drama, the books I was reading, the books HE was reading, politics (he was indoctrinating me of course, buy still), tutoring me on math problems, etc.

He didn’t just picked me up in the middle of the week, took me home, fed me, watched me doing homework or watch tv, then sent me to bed because it was a school night.

No… the time we had together was actually bonding. [/quote]

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