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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Affairs are very much about getting scraps/breadcrumbs of love and I think pp understands that.  that dynamic is why they happen- you don’t think you need or deserve better than someone’s scraps.  For me I just thought I wanted something sexual and when I started feeling things for the person I went into a complete panic, because I wanted whatever they could give me and I knew it would end terribly.[/quote]

Not necessarily true. You can live with a man for 20 years and have no idea how he is capable to love someone else. He gives himself all to the AP. In this case, it is the wife who gets scraps. But it also depends on your values. I value true feelings and a moment. If you value your house, retirement account, and other assets, then maybe you are correct, the AP is getting scraps. But putting finances aside, I think AP is getting a true and genuine relationship (assuming the man is open that he is married).[/quote]

Scraps. Hmmm.  Can a man give all of himself to someone he sees in a hotel room for 40 min once or twice a month?  I'm serious.  Is he all in when he has never eaten a meal in public with the AP?  Never been there when she's sick or spent a holiday together?  Can't freely talk on the phone?  He has to leave separately or have her duck her head in the car.  Nobody he truly cares about has ever met her (when people are in love THEY WANT EVERYONE to know).  Hasn't met his parents.

I think there is a lot of delusion in many of these posts.  But, the type of women that get into affairs usually have some form of histrionic personality disorder.  They need drama.

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My guy and I talk more to each other more than to our spouses. We chat all day during the workday.[/quote]

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