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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Unfriendly = mean comments, bumping as you pass, whispering, glaring, getting others involved in being mean.

Neutral = doesn’t choose to interact with your kid. NOT A CRIME.

Friendly = friendly, but guess what, still human and imperfect, so maybe some bumps on the road here and there

Does-not-exist-OP-expectation-of-friendship = absolutely perfectly friendly at all times[/quote]

You must’ve missed where I’ve said multiple times that there’s no expectation of friendship [/quote]

You must have missed where NEUTRAL IS WHAT THIS KID IS, not “unfriendly.”[/quote]

No, ignoring someone who says hi to you really is unfeiendly. I think you're trying to make it ok by saying it's neutral. But it's not neutral, it's literally unfriendly. If someone you know and see every day says hi, and you ignore them, you are being unfriendly. [b]You cannot unilaterally change the definition of words. [/b]
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[b]You also don't get to decide what is and isn't friendly, nor when it is or isn't a problem.[/b]

We've seen posts on here where grandparents get mad that kids won't hug them and the universal answer is that kids should have autonomy over their bodies and they get to decide whether or not they will hug someone. The grandparents would say the kid is being rude, but they're wrong.

Also, continuing to say hello to someone who has no interest in talking to you could also be considered unfriendly. If a co-worker decides they want to chat with you every morning on your ride up to the 55th floor and you decide you just want some peace and quiet - who is the unfriendly one?[/quote]

I didn't create the definition of the word friendly. It is universally accepted that returning a basic nicety is "friendly."

What you MEAN to say is that you don't give a crap whether people are friendly or not. Or that you don't think people need to be friendly. But your opinion doesn't change the fact that ignoring a "hello" from the classmate you see daily is an unfriendly response, by definition of the word.

I don't know if you're the only one trying to say it's considered friendly to ignore the person who says hi to you, or are there others? But I think the discussion has really gone off the rails when people are changing word definitions in order to win an argument.

I think maybe I'm going to tell toddlers to play unsupervised in the street at rush hour because it's safe. Who are you to decide what is and isn't safe or when it is or isn't a problem? I can call it safe regardless of the meaning of the word. [/quote]

I'm not the pp you quoted but I absolutely agree with her. It's a tell of your own personality that [b]you think young children need to be forced to make other people feel comfortable even if that makes them hurt. [/b]

I'm sure you read the last sentence,  rolled your eyes and thought "hurt? Oh stop exaggerating!" Thats because you lack empathy. People who lack empathy are mean. I didn't invent the word. We can't go around changing definitions. When you lack empathy, you're mean. Period.

And by the way, when half of your argument relies on strawman and other fallacies, most rational people think you're wrong. [/quote]

Where did I say that? I said the other child is not being friendly. I didn't say I think she should be forced to do anything. It's not mean or unempathetic to point out that it's unfriendly to ignore someone when they say hi. Ignoring a daily acquaintance is unfriendly. The child is being unfriendly. Accept it. [/quote]

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