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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For those who are saying no big deal that the email was anonymous and how could you expect a teen to sign their name - if it’s so normal, how many times have you heard of this scenario? Receiving an anonymous email that maligns your kid is pretty damn unusual, and that’s why this discussion is 17 pages long. I’ve never personally heard of a similar situation other than in the news (jealous cheerleader mom, etc).

OP, I would treat the two issues separately. Whether your daughter was mean to other kids is one issue that you will have to work out with her. Receiving an anonymous email with a possible veiled threat is another issue. You may be reluctant to bring it up with the school because they might assume your daughter is guilty of being a bully from the contents of the email. But teachers who know her will know if this is true. And as a pp said, this might not be the first time this has happened. [/quote]

Will also add that we all hope our kids would come to us, but there’s also the possibility that OP’s daughter has received anonymous messages preceding this, which supports OP’s intention to talk to her. That is what happened in the crazy cheerleader case in PA - a parent harassed the child first and then when the kid didn’t respond (I think), she moved on to the owners of the cheerleading gym and the parents. [/quote]

I think it’s strange to focus on the very rare cases of a teen or parent if a teen getting violent instead of the near-ubiquitous presence of relational aggression (“mean girl” behavior) in schools. I agree with the PP who suggested some of you watch too much Lifetime. Odds are very good this is just about run of the mill gossip/exclusion, not some vengeant cheerleader.[/quote]

What about the very rare case of an anonymous email? I have received exactly 0 of these that were not spam in my life.[/quote]

While anonymous emails are unusual, I don't automatically associate them with stalking or threats (and don't think this one contains a threat). I have sent two anonymous emails in my life, and both were to report a concerning behavior or activity committed by someone I knew would retaliate against me if I attached my name. One was sent to a former employer, and one to a local news agency. In one case nothing came of it, in the other, someone was arrested. No regrets about sending either one -- it was better than staying silent, even though I did not have the courage to attach my name to the allegation.[/quote]

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