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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, how much of your DS resume is his merit? If you work on the hill and he got an internship there through your connections is not his merit in any way. Yes, he has the experience and knowledge from it but that is an advantage not an achievement. So sick entire of entitlement! I don't know your son, maybe he's exceptional, but you sound like the pushy whinny parent so likely lots of his resume bullet points had your significant contribution.
Get rid of holistic admissions and introduce exams for specific departments, why are you scoring kids in English if they go to computer science? OK, add it as pass/fail so they have so minimum English proficiency but test them in math.[/quote]

Actually, you sound like a whiny parent. OP has been pretty tame and essentially just asked for insights, which were provided in abundance. Some PPs on here also said their own kids and others they know got internships on the hill of their own accord, and OP doesn’t sound like a helicopter parent. OPs son definitely has the credentials to get a hill internship with class president + editor in chief to go along with the stellar academics[/quote]

Also, there is no way of an AO to know this necessarily. That's what I find frustrating. I'd much rather than my hands off the reigns and let my DC drive and learn themselves but the level they will drive themselves is not what their peers (who are pushed by their parents) are doing. For example, one of my sons writes really good research papers entirely on his own (won't even tell me that he's written a paper until after its graded). I think that is great. But one of his friends' mom admitted to me that since her son is not a great writer, she keeps on top of all of his writing assignments, has him do an outline which she edits, has him do a first draft which she edits, has him do a final draft that she often needs to still re-write. He gets the same grades typically as my son.  I have another son is like hers - struggles with writing, critical thinking. Occasionally for a big paper he will share an early draft with me and I provide general feedback/questions. He gets Bs typically on papers (makes up for it with tests since he is great at memorization). Should I be more involved? I don't think long run its good for him, but the friend whose mom is involved will likely be looked at my favorably than the  my son who struggles with writing and at the same level as my son whose strength is in that area.   [/quote]

That seems like a lot of help though if the kid is asking for it  and it truly is help not doing it for them it’s not different than the many, many kids with tutors. [/quote]

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