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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The whole rush process is demented.  I don't know about SLACs, but I went to UGA 30 years ago, and it was bad then.  From what I hear from friend's kids, social media has not made it better/[/quote]

My DC is at my alma mater (where I was in a sorority) and I can conclusively say that social media has made the entire process much worse. This school (not Bama!) has had some students with fairly high social media profiles and the number of women going out for rush and having their hearts set on the “top” houses has ballooned. What used to be just an informal, niche, rumor mill kind of “ranking” system has become very entrenched and documented on the internet/social media and now everyone thinks they’re a failure if they don’t pledge XYZ house. That thing about having a bid for everyone? Doesn’t work that way anymore. Too many girls. It’s kind of interesting — the boys seem unaffected by it and, if anything, less interested in frats. Guys are still rushing, but numbers are down, and plenty of guys are looking at the pledge process (hazing) and saying “no thanks.”  Social media ruins everything. [/quote]

Agree.  At my DD’s school, rush for the girls was the miserable, one bid nightmare the girls fear. Run by a grad student who didn’t care about the girls’ experiences at all. They didn’t open enough spaces for the increased enrollment to intentionally force the one unpopular house to grow, counting on all those one bid girls to settle instead of quit: USING those girls, their first college experience, and their emotions to reach their goals of saving that house.

The boys on the other hand just dirty rush, no formal recruitment.  So laid back.

Immature women just love to hurt other women and rush lets them pick “winners” and “losers” and continuing the hierarchy that they claim doesn’t exist but secretly love and take pride in. And all of this misery is endorsed by the school and the directors of recruitment.  At this school, it got so bad that mothers were telling their girls to go to a different state U of they wanted to rush. 
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[b]All schools give girls one bid.[/b]

Another my daughter was too good for the sorority she gotten into so the system is judgmental and superficial, but my kid is not post.[/quote]

This is not true. At my DC’s school, there were only enough bids for about 50% of the girls who went through rush.

And my DC is a boy, so I don’t have any personal interest in it. I just heard a lot about the aftermath, and it wasn’t pretty. [/quote]

I’m sure as a mom of a college aged boy you have more accurate info than a woman who handled in charge of rush at her sorority.  [/quote]

And once again, just because your sorority at your school doesn't do it does NOT mean it doesn't happen elsewhere. You only have accurate information about rush at your sorority at your school. 
There are hundreds of schools that Rush. 
Plenty of people are stating that NOT EVERYONE gets bids at their school.  So it obviously happens at many schools.  [/quote]

No, it isn’t obvious.  Identify the school where you claim not everyone gets bids so we can get to the bottom of this.  [/quote]

Not the person you’re responding to but I understand this is true at UT Knoxville.[/quote]

It's true across the SEC, and probably worse at Ole Miss, UGA, Auburn, etc.[/quote]

No, it's not true across the SEC.

My DD attends an SEC school and is in a sorority. Every girl who wants a bid gets a bid. Unless they do something like a previous person mentioned like being rude about the houses they don't want, or choosing not to rank their final choices because they only want a particular house. As to why a girl would do that? Maybe she only wants a "top" house. Maybe she wants to be a legacy. Maybe she only wants her time and her money going to a particular philanthropy.

My DD is not in a top house. We're not a Greek system family, we had no idea there was such a thing. She went in with an open mind and found the perfect spot for her. But she's said during rush there are definitely some girls who aren't interested in her sorority. Maybe kids are better off indicating they're not interested so no one wastes their time. And there are definitely girls every year who drop rush if their preferred houses drop them. I assume they'll later try through the open bid process, or rush again the following year, or decide not to join a sorority after all. Even at a very Greek school like an SEC school, there are plenty of opportunities for everyone.[/quote]

Disagree that there are plenty of opportunities but otherwise, this is pretty typical.  But girls who grew up in the south are under pressure that your DD wasn’t under.  “I knew nothing and was happy with my one option” is different than “I grew up around moms and girls who prepped for this for years and told me I want this house, I don’t want that house and now I’m down to one I didn’t even like”[/quote]

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