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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How much effort do you put into staying fit for your spouse if you know they will not leave?  I’ve had 3 children, and I’ve gained weight after each pregnancy.  DH has commented that I’m heavier than when we met. And he’s correct, I am heavier. At 5’6”, I was 130 when we married, and I’m 180 now. My happy weight is 160, but I think 140 is where he’s most attracted to me.  I work out regularly, but really struggle with eating in a calorie deficit. Im just miserable when I’m eating less than 2000 calories a day.

I know DH will not leave over my weight. We have children and a life built together. Financially we’d both struggle if we separated. We still have regular sex (2-3x a week). My weights doesn’t keep me from doing all the stuff we like to do. It’s just an appearance issue. I just don’t have any motivation to put in all the work to get back to 140 when I’d only be doing it for DH.

It appears like many overweight men feel the same. They know their wives won’t leave, so they remain overweight. Does anyone stay fit exclusively for their spouse if they know it’s not a deal breaker for the marriage? [/quote]

Don't blame your pregnancies on being 50lbs overweight!!!  Lose weight for yourself and your health first. DH us a close second.  Imagine yourself in 10 years.  It's not just vanity. Vanity is a distant reason to keep trim, although important I suppose. But number 1 reason is your health.  Metabolic health specifically.  Get a grip now.  [/quote]

Yep. So many women blame pregnancy for being overweight. Does pregnancy make you gain weight? Yes of course. Is it hard to lose the baby weight? Yes. But there isn’t any difference in the ability of a woman who has been pregnant in losing some extra pounds and maintaining a healthy weight. It is sad so many women have babies and just accept having to shop in the plus size department for the rest of their lives. You should be trying to maintain your health for your family. [/quote]

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