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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Piping up here to say that I’m all for body sovereignty and “getting fit” if that’s what a person chooses but f society for acting like more weight automatically devalues people. I haven’t read every comment but I’ve seen enough and holy hell. Why is everyone so afraid of a few extra pounds? It’s such an obsession that maybe we should ask ourselves why this generates an unreadably long thread instead of assuming that if we aren’t striving to be smaller, we should be so that other people will treat us better and love us more.[/quote]

It may be harsh, but [b]gaining an extra 40% of your body weight devalues a woman (and men) in the sexual marketplace[/b]. Does it devalue personality or other internal characteristics? No. But if my wife had been 45 lbs heavier when I first met her, we could have been friends but I would not have been romantically interested. I think this is true for most people. Part of being a good partner is not letting yourself go. A woman who looked good at 135 and now weights 175 has definitely let herself go, and her spouse is totally justified in resenting that.[/quote]

It's the truth for most people.

I was 138 pounds when I married my DH. I am 180 now. You wouldn't even recognize me. My face is completely different. It's bloated and some kind of shape . I can see the surprise on people's faces when they look at our wedding pictures on the wall.  :lol: They can't believe I used to be thst attractive.

Weight drastically changes one's looks. [/quote]

Do you want your wife(spouse) active on the sexual marketplace (Ew. I can't even type that without laughing)?

There are many many reasons to resent your spouse, sure add not being "valued in the sexual marketplace" as one of them. But you would resent your spouse more if they were active in the "sexual marketplace" more than if they lost "value"  Which, trust me, will happen anyway.  Perhaps you need to come to terms with the fact  that age, baggage and life in general will also devalue YOU (and anyone) in the dating world. ;)

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