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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Actually I have a pretty well informed view of what single life is like. Here’s what it will be: less money, less time, loss of friends, being treated as less-than by just about everybody, constant unending stress and anxiety about being the breadwinner and only source of everything, no one to help you if you’re tired or sick, inability to travel. Inability to take on extra work, possible need to change career paths to free up more time for kids, an endless parade of freaks and losers with flaws at least as large as her DH’s but people who have zero committment to her children, while her apparently awesome high earning handsome funny non abusive non alcoholic non addicted highly educated service-oriented DH takes up with someone new and possibly goes on to have more kids, shortchanging her own, and providing a stable secure life for some other woman while OP watches from her office window, where she now spends every minute that she isn’t with her kids. It sucks, and is not necessarily better than dealing with the flawed human she married.[/quote]

Hate to say it, but this was true for a friend.  She filed.  He was previously a very involved dad.  Coached their teams, went to every parent-teacher conference, etc.  Not long after the divorce he started dating, and not long after that he met a much younger woman who lived in another state.  They got married, he moved, he got his vasectomy reversed and they had more kids.  He contributes the court ordered minimum and nothing more.  He still cares about his older kids, but he's pulled in two different directions and understandable there's more in it for him to keep the new wife happy.  Friend found a new guy, but she single parented 3 teens for a long time, and the new guy has even more kids.  [/quote]

Yep. If your husband is a top tier guy, you have to put up with some stepping out (if it happens…not saying all top tier guys do it but IF they do it, you have to put up with it) unless you are top tier yourself.

If you are just some average/above average woman, you have to suck it up.[/quote]

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