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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Widowed man and I'm looking for her now.  Have been on about 15 dates.  Didn't want any second dates so far.  It's a lot of effort.

Fit, financially secure, likes to stay in and let me cook us a meal then watch a movie as much as dress up and go out dancing, or maybe a hike in the woods.  No ex baggage at all-none.  Grown kids who don't live with her.  Not allergic to cats.  Adventurous and expects the same in me.  Willing to try new things.  Bonus if she has a nice a$$.[/quote]

Let me guess. You’re 60 and she should be under 45.[/quote]You're close.  You say that like it's a bad thing.[/quote]

It’s uneven. Men die earlier typically. People like this don’t want to be known for their money but what else are they actually bringing to the table [/quote]

Exactly. So let’s see: second marriage, maybe they don’t combine finances because if existing kids. She gets what, ten years if companionship before he’s an old man and then she’s still active while he needs caretaking. Then he dies and she is not only alone with no one to take care of her, [b]but also no money to replace someone taking care of her because it all goes to his kids.[/b][/quote]

So who do they date?  If I imagine a counterfactual version of myself now having never married or had kids, I think dating would be hard.  Not sure I'd date younger because I don't respect men who are clearly subordinate to me, and not sure I'd want to date older, especially if he had kids and I didn't.  The dating pool seems impossibly small....

Money goes to kids.  This. [/quote]

That’s why nobody needs these old men. They have literally nothing to offer. I would rather date a 40 something type PP who doesn’t want anything serious: at least I have my freedom to date while I have a FWB my age and his younger body to enjoy [/quote]

+1 I have a few friends who meet all the criteria listed here and are in their 40s. Attractive, fit, well-dressed, lots of hobbies, great jobs and own their own homes, no kids, etc. None of them are interested in the old retiree men. [/quote][/quote]I'm not retired.  I plan to work until I'm about 70.[/quote]

They’re not interested in old men, period.[/quote]

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