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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]One universal truth on DCUM:  When men talk about dating younger women, a lot of women go on the attack.  And from so many angles and scenarios.  Why is that and why do you care?  Like it's so offensive to prefer an age group that is a little younger.

But notice in this thread, when women have said they date younger, no man has said a word about it.  We just don't care.  I know I don't.  If you like younger guys, I certainly get that and I'm happy for you.[/quote]

I don’t aim to date younger, but about same age as myself. It is in most cases 50+ men who brag about sleeping with 20+ women. Whatever, if he’s willing to pay!  I don’t pay to 20 something lovers to be with me for fine dining or free housing, even though I could:)  [/quote]There you go.  No 50 year old guy in this thread has even mentioned dating women in their 30s, much less 20s.  I said I prefer anywhere from 45 to my age of 58 and the harpies already have me on a cruise ship while the women I like all still have baby fever.  Seriously, some of you are insane.[/quote]m

58 is too old for a 45 yo woman. Why don’t you prefer someone who is 52-63, eg your own generation?

I know indeed a lot of women who had a second child in their 40s. Two couples (he had one child from prior marriage she had no kids and was 48, somehow they needed having twins when he was 60 and she was 49, divorced in 14 years due to age related hang ups in husband but happy coparent and don’t regret having late kids), second couple she was 46 husband 42 (he had no kids she had 2 grown up kids from prior marriage, they had twins from
IVF at 48) , one on her own adopted a 4 yo girl (a physician making over 0.5mm/year), one more couple adopted a baby girl at 50 (30 year marriage childless); one couple who adopted 2 girls in Ukraine in their 50s in addition to their 3 bio sons (religious family). These were all very wealthy couples either childless, or one spouse childless and wanted kids.   If you ever visit a fertility clinic you will see many people trying to conceive in their 40s. It’s extremely common in dmv among well paid professionals, I don’t know which city you are from if you never heard of it.

I have one grown up child and yes my profile was so popular on OLD that I had to add a “filter” about wanting kids and marriage as only goal for dating. I met someone already. He’s couple years younger no kids but wants a child [/quote]That you know a few women in their 40s who still wanted children is irrelevant.  It's pretty rare on dating sites and, who cares anyway?  Obviously I'm not looking to date a woman who wants more babies.  That reduces the eligible pool by some meaningless fraction of a percent, yet you swell on it. If you still want babies in your 40s, of course you should make that clear on a dating site.  Really, at any age you should be clear about that wanting them or not and almost all women do answer your profile form questions.  That's why they are there.

As to, "Why don’t you prefer someone who is 52-63, eg your own generation?"  I'd love a woman of my own generation.  52-63 is perfect and I'll readily admit, the available pool of 45 year old, or let's say 45-51 because you set my low range at 52, is slim.  But it does exist and it's a wish list.  That said, I just ended a 2 month relationship with a 42 year old so it does happen.  For sure I prefer younger.  Do I really need to explain the reasons?  As I said a few pages up, I wish you could sit down with me as I page through the profiles of women that age.  I don't swipe on too many of them.[/quote]

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