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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]One universal truth on DCUM:  When men talk about dating younger women, a lot of women go on the attack.  And from so many angles and scenarios.  Why is that and why do you care?  Like it's so offensive to prefer an age group that is a little younger.

But notice in this thread, when women have said they date younger, no man has said a word about it.  We just don't care.  I know I don't.  If you like younger guys, I certainly get that and I'm happy for you.[/quote]

I don't care except for one thing: I think the women writing about it are lying because I see zero evidence of this going on in real life. I've encountered a small age gap twice in my entire life, it was just 5 years and 10 years, and I really pity those guys. [/quote]

Read better above: women here comment they prefer dating peers of about same age. Statistics tell that on average men are only 2-3 years older than their wives. I know many successful marriages where a woman is up to 5 years older. I think that marrying someone from a different generation is bad for both men and women.  No matter how hard some 55+ guy pretends liking rap, he will look weird to 20+ women unless he has a deep pocket. And women his age would call him immature Peter Pan type [/quote]

LOL the kind of 55+ guy who can get a 20-something woman could not care less what "women his age" think. [/quote]

Lol this depends much more on the 20-something woman than the 50 yo guy. The guy only needs to be reasonably solvent. The women have judgment problems. There is a guy on this thread who boasts about bedding 20-something women with no self-awareness that none of these women are making good choices by being with his player / Peter Pan / unserious self.[/quote]

It takes a lot more than just a little bit of money for a guy in his 50s to date a woman in her 20s.

Women who like older men are no more broken and lacking in judgment than women who like similar-age men. The divorce rate alone shows that ALL women are bad at picking men.[/quote]

It’s takes a lot more money  that’s it. Both spouses are responsible for marrying abs for divorce. You make it sound like women are the ones who make a decision to date, get  married and divorced and men are some obedient puppies on a leash
My exH was 14 years older: he was pursuing me and made sure no younger suitors are anywhere near when we dated. Very powerful man to begin with and assertive in his wants in dating. I indeed was the one who filed for divorce but that was after many years of me tolerating his philandering and wasting family money on mistress.
When there is a large power imbalance in a couple (money, age, looks take one), it’s a recipe for divorce [/quote]

Nah. An older man who wants to date young has to be fit, dress well, be sexworthy, and have a fun/interesting vibe. Just being a fat slob with money won't do it.

"You make it sound like women are the ones who make a decision to date, get  married and divorced" - well yeah it should be obvious that any relationship or marriage only exists so long as it benefits the woman.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/machiavellians-gulling-the-rubes/201610/briffaults-law-women-rule

[quote]Briffault’s law maintains that “the female, not the male, determines all the conditions of the animal family. Where the female can derive no benefit from association with the male, no such association takes place.”... We already know, of course, that women wield the ultimate veto power in the mating game. It is women who give thumbs-up or thumbs-down to any advances or proposals from men. [/quote]

"When there is a large power imbalance in a couple (money, age, looks take one), it’s a recipe for divorce" -- most marriages are between relative equals and still they fail. The recipe for any divorce is that as soon as the woman no longer perceives a benefit to the association (which is almost inevitable over time) she can pull the plug. And there is no penalty for doing so, and indeed, many rewards.[/quote]

Listen, there will be a ton of other psychological books that state just the opposite. Women stay in marriages that don’t benefit them all the time, because of the kids. When a child is involved, divorce filing is always preceded by a lot  of things that husband commits. Often it’s adultery, parental abandonment, lack of intimacy, financial dishonesty, addictions.

Plenty of fat slobs with big pockets date younger women. You said it yourself above - some women would be happy to move into his house for free living expenses. That doesn’t change the fact that these women are very damaged if they prefer free housing and spreading their legs to much older men vs taking responsibility for their financing. [b]The latter is much easier for me than sleeping with old fags.  [/b]
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When women get angry one of the many things they do is accuse men of being "gay". Don't like an old woman? You're gay. Don't like a fat woman? You're gay. Saying I'm wrong? You're a misogynist, and gay. [/quote]

That was actually an autocorrect, nothing against gay men. Meant to be “farts”. [/quote]

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