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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Does Dad show up for anything?[/quote]

OP here: yes, he goes to a few football games each season, but not all.

He sporadically goes to band concerts, but usually can’t or won’t make it during the work week.

We haven’t really had parent teacher conferences since elementary school, so it’s been a long time since he’s been to those.

I can’t think of anything else. He complains a lot about the driving (which is annoying because he’s the one who moved…). He would never, ever drive DS to a friend’s house or anything like that on “his” weekend.

My ex does seem to want to spend time with DS, but only at his house and on his terms. He would never drive down here just for a midweek dinner with DS or something like that.[/quote]

You ex doesn’t want a relationship with DS where he has to put in the work.  But you already know that.[/quote]

OP here: sure, those thoughts have crossed my mind.

But it doesn’t matter if I think my ex is not always a stellar father, or that I think he could do things better/differently. He’s still my DS’s dad, and there’s still a court order that has to be followed until spring.

If my ex seeks an emergency hearing over this, I really don’t know what I’m going to do. I’ll have to represent myself pro se, I guess. The thought of it makes me sick.[/quote]

OP it’s like you’re not hearing us so many of us have told you that we have been there and done that represent yourself pro se nobody is going to call you went to jail for contempt of court for not dragging a 17-year-old who is presumably the size of a grown ass man into your car for visitation with his father who is acting like a recalcitrant child (the father not your son). If anything I think you need to focus more on your sons needs and less I’m trying to force him to comply with a court order that was likely made when he was much much younger[/quote]

OP here: I am listening and reading every single post.

But other posters are saying I could be held in contempt of court and have to pay fines/face other penalties. This is also what Google is telling me COULD happen. Maybe it’s a low likelihood, but I am still scared. I will try to reach out to a pro bono clinic for advice.[/quote]

Yes that would be a good next step.  Your main role  is to be your child’s advocate.  Yes, there are only six months left til he’s 18 and you don’t want to antagonize the dad too much but if your kid really doesn’t want to go (and it seems reasonable that he doesn’t) then you should talk to a lawyer.  [/quote]

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