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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Good for you! My DD misses the cut-off and could not start K last year. She was bored out of her mind in pre-K. [/quote]

Same. I have two kids with summer birthdays who started on time and one with a November birthday who is endlessly bored in her class. The summer birthday kids are absolutely fine. AAP - all honors, well adjusted, top sports teams, etc. I cannot for the life of me understand why any parent would change the trajectory of their kids based on a few months difference in preschool. It makes absolutely no sense. Kids learn and adapt. What parents perceive as a big deal in kindergarten is forgettable by 7th  grade. Absent a medical disability or child with special needs, I think this redshirting business is helicopter parenting at its worst. Our friends redshirted their spring birthday kid because his writing wasn't perfect in preschool, a skill he could easily pick up in the summer or over a few days at home. And now he's more than 16 months older than his peers in some cases.

Makes no sense. [/quote]

A tip: You are going to have a very, very tough row to hoe if you remain this judgmental, uncomprehending, and nosy about the parenting decisions of other people. Also, your own kids will just start keeping a lot of secrets from you when they become teens. My kids are all nearly grown and I’ve seen this pattern in the judgmental parents so many times now. [/quote]

DP. It's not nosy or uncomprehending at all -- it's a fair assessment. And judgment is okay when someone else's behavior impacts you. Which redshirting does. Parents who redshirt do it to give their kids an advantage. It's designed to game the system to benefit their child. My kid is in that system. So yes, I will judge. This isn't like judging how someone parents in their own home or how they spend money or whatever. [/quote]

Keep telling yourself that.

Meanwhile your teenagers will distance themselves from you. [/quote]

If telling yourself that makes you feel better, go for it.[/quote]

Oh, my kids are almost out of the house. I’m just reporting facts at this point. I realize as a judgmental, uncomprehending, and nosy parent, it makes you defensive to understand what will happen when your kids become teenagers, but perhaps consider that I’ve seen a lot more teenagers than you have.

Nobody with a healthy, non-judgmental parenting outlook cares this much about what other parents do as far as redshirting. Your obsession is betraying how you parent and it will come at a cost to you. [/quote]

I'm not obsessed with redshirting and don't think I'm the poster you think I am. But the person who sounds insanely judgmental and uncomprehending here is you. You are literally telling people their children will dislike them because of an opinion they hold on a message board about kindergarten start dates. You're escalating this way beyond what is merited and you are the one who comes off as defensive and rude. But I wouldn't presume to know what your relationship with your kids is because I don't know you. See how that works?[/quote]

Anti-redshirters on DCUM have a history of being bizarrely judgmental. There is a very long history here of appalling posts. Anti-redshirters who report memorizing the class birthday lists and then volunteering in the classroom to spy on kids, anti-redshirters who boast about how they’ve taught their kids to gossip about older kids, etc., and I’m not even listing the totally crazy ones like natural law lady. Maybe you aren’t a crazy judgmental person, but there have been a lot of posts from a lot of DCUM anti-redshirters over the years, enough so that it’s reasonable to extrapolate about how anti-redshirters parent.

Also it’s not dislike. It’s distrust. Teens of judgmental parents don’t trust their parents. If you aren’t judgmental—which, based on DCUM history of anti-redshirters, I’m skeptical of, but let’s say you aren’t — you don’t have to worry. [/quote]

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