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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m not blonde or skinny. I am smart, well educated, and have a good paying job in my own right. I also got married in my mid-30s to what I consider a decent guy with a GS-14/15 type job. That doesn’t get you a SFH + Private school + Europe. But it does get you SFH in North Arlington, public school, and 2-3 domestic vacations a year with a combination of skiing, exploring cities, beach resorts, and national parks. I suggest you look for the nerdy, kind guy making $125-200k you may have overlooked because he didn’t seem ambitious enough for you. If you are in your late 30s, you are not getting the big $$$ earners now, not as a first wife. I had a consulting partner-track job when I met my spouse, so I have some flexibility on salary because I knew I could support us at the lifestyle I wanted to have if I needed to.

If you are late 30s, I would re-evaluate “kids” to “1 kid” or “step kids”. Choose carefully because you want to be with someone you can enjoy life with if kids never happen for you.

This will be tough to hear, but men in their mid and late 40s looking for wife #2 are looking thinner and younger. Men in their 50s and 60s looking for wife #2 are done raising kids and unlikely to start over. Also how will they pay for your fantasy life while they are paying for college for their kids? [/quote]

I had 3 natural, healthy pregnancies after 38, one an accident in my mid 40s, so on the fertility subject, you never know. I think most women are reasonably fertile up to their early to mid 40s, we just don’t know it because most are done having kids by then and are not actively trying to get pregnant. [/quote]

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