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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]According to our admissions counselor, last year Cornell only accepted 11% of the kids that applied with a 1600 SAT. Let that sink in. Once you reach a certain threshold, colleges don't care because they know you can do the work and be successful. The competition for CS and Engineering is fierce at every school and demand is extremely high. I know my Asian friends are disappointed when their kids are in fact rejected from these highly rejective schools. But, Asian students are over represented at all the T30 schools so, looking at the numbers, there just isn't any race based conspiracy against Asian students. [/quote]

Asian American parent here. Too many kids just seem similar to one another. I worry for my tennis playing smart boys. That is the only thing they are really good at and love. At the same time, they most likely won’t be D1 recruits.[/quote]

I am so sorry.  My kid had a similar situation with violin. But, she stuck with it because it was her passion,  and that showed.  Are there any other interests your boys might develop that would add something different? Art? Theatre? Service (non tutoring)? Mine also pursued other types of activities,  but always in areas that genuinely interested her. She chose schools for fit and tailored apps to those schools and was accepted to several top schools.  Or, you can go all out on competitions. One Asian boy did that and got lots of top admits. I personally think this isn't healthy though.[/quote]

Sadly, to what end? Who really cares that he went to that so-called "top" school (other than his parents)? He would have been a success anyway -- maybe more so had he enjoyed his childhood and discovered true passions. Look around you folks ... what are people actually doing in their adult lives and how did they get there? What you are doing to your kids is not necessary.[/quote]

This is what parents need to recognize.  [b]Anyone who has a chance at a T20 school will succeed in life wherever they land and grow. [/b] As long as they have a good attitude and are not depressed because they didn't get into a T20 school. Once you get your first job, nobody cares where you went to school (except for elite business schools or law schools---and those are obviously grad programs).  Yes, there are some connections made from T20 schools, but those only really benefit lower income/1st gen/etc students at HYPM. [b] The elite, full pay students at Harvard already had most of those connections from their families before getting into Harvard. [/b]They would still have those connections if they attended a T50 school.

I want my kid to be excited about college and grown and learn while there, not be depressed they didn't get into their top 10 choices.

Signed parent whose kid didn't get into ED choice and got WL at 2nd highest "ranked" school, Kid happily attending a T30 school they almost ED2 to but didn't due to being "deferred" at ED1 and wanted to see result.  Kid was also seriously considering their "True Safety" because they love it as well and it's an amazing school, because we made sure kid had a few "True Safeties" they'd be happy to attend.  Yes, kid was disappointed with rejection and WL, but moved on within 1 day of each and got excited about remaining choices, because they are all great schools that kid actually wants to attend[/quote]

I agree. The highest performing kid with stats and ECs who has a chance in any top school are going to do just as well in safeties also. And for an MC or UMC kid who are 100% EFC, the merit $$$ many universities give to attract the top talent, is no less than a generous "signing bonus".

If a great education can provide a leg up in life for a student and a safety college is providing them that, then having a couple of hundred thousand dollars in your pocket is also providing a leg up. [/quote]

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