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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was spanked all the time as a child. I don’t spank my children ever. But I think there is a significant difference between abuse and 90s‘ parents spanking. The sort of senseless, random, rage-filled violence that abused children experience is very different from the if-you-do-x-then-you-get-a-spanking premeditated consequence my parents inflicted. I can’t get myself to spank my kids because it seems awful, but I wouldn’t characterize my parents‘ spankings as abusive or violent.[/quote]

Striking a person is violent. Striking a child is cruel. Of course you don't want to think of them as being abusive at times or violent. And yet you admit spanking is awful. Cognitive dissonance. I acknowledge that my parents' spanking me was abusive and damaged me. I comfort myself by thinking they did the best they could, which was better than they experienced. My kids will never be abused in their home.[/quote]
PP here: I don’t know what to tell you, other than that parents since the beginning of time have swatted, switched and spanked their offspring (and others!). That we collectively decided to make it unlawful is actually very modern and unorthodox. Ironically, children are wildly more disobedient than ever. I don’t spank my children because I can’t stomach it (a modern parent am I!). But I witness children on a daily basis that are so irritating and disrespectful to adults that I wonder if our generation should be so smug in our gentle parenting approach. Parents have lost all will to punish so they uselessly beg Larlo to stop irritating the entire world around him until they lose it and yell. But sure, spanking was worse.[/quote]

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