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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]….how do you manage not repeating this with you own kids?

FTR I don’t hit my kids. But I will admit to sometimes being so filled with rage when they are being especially difficult that I get overwhelmed with the urge to do what I experienced as a kid. I always manage to fight it off but it is hard. Harder than I think it should be.

Anyone else in similar shoes? If you were beaten (whatever your own definition of corporal punishment is and your own line of what’s acceptable) do you have a hard time avoiding a repeat of the past? [/quote]

Kid is grown up now, but no. My memories of pretty severe physical punishment (IDK what people define as beaten, I know there are kids who have had it much worse, but even as a teen there were a few times when I had deep purple bruises) were pretty well seared into me, would never want to do to my kid.

There was a brief stretch when stuff we were doing wasn't working--kid was very high strong (a lot of neuropsych stuff going on) so time outs meant restraint, which seemed to make things worse for him. We actually discussed this with him (he was maybe 5) and he said he would prefer spanking. We did that a few times but it just felt awkward. I worked to find more ways to stave off issues on the front end.

FWIW physical punishment wasn't that common as I recall. Wasn't like getting a swat across the face if you lipped off. It was more like if my dad was really pissed off, it was his hand or the belt--for something that might have been disregarded other times.  My mom really didn't do that stuff, although she would sometimes pinch--hard. She pinched me when I was 17 at my grandparents' house and I did not want to join in some really dumb game she was organizing, got a ferocious pinch on my upper arm. [/quote]

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