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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you believe spanking is fine but feel the need to refer to it as "tapping" (I was spanked, no one ever "tapped" my butt -- they were hitting me), ask yourself why you feel the need to use an inaccurate euphemism to describe this thing you think is totally fine.

Spanking is hitting. If you spank, you are hitting your kids. You are using your hand or another object to strike your child. If you don't spank but you think it's okay if others do, you are saying it's okay for people to hit their kids.

I just think we should be very clear about what we are talking about. You don't get to advocate for spanking and then make it sound like a gentle caress. Spanking is hitting. If you want to defend spanking, you need to be willing to defend hitting kids.

Go ahead.[/quote]

Different person. I spank and I don't care what you think. No one even knows I do.[/quote]

Your kids know and they'll never forget it.[/quote]

[b]Are you an idiot? [/b]Several people on this thread have verified they were spanked and they love their parents. [/quote]

I'm one of those people who was "spanked" and loved my parents. They were abusive at times and loving at times. Very confusing. What I'm not confused about is the fact that you are an abusive person. Look at your word choice in a thread written by someone who specified "being beaten in childhood". This question was posted for adults who were beaten in childhood, not for abusive people who continue the cycle of abuse. Piss. Off.
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You are an idiot. Your experience is not my experience. I was not confused by it in the least bit. I also was never beaten. Bending over on someone's lap is not being beaten.[/quote]

DP here… that pp was correct. You are an abusive person.[/quote]

Seriously, then half the world is.[/quote]

Now you’re on to something! Why do you think humans cause so much suffering in the world?[/quote]

All because of spanking? Seriously, there are many other things that are causing suffering. I get what you're saying but spanking is not the leading cause of suffering in this world. If I spank my kids 3 times over the course of their childhood somehow that makes me an abuser? That's fine if you think so. CPS does not think so.[/quote]

All because of trauma. One of which is definitely being beaten as a child.

This is so obvious and clear to so many of us that it is actually shocking to see so much confusion regarding this sort of cause/effect. Don’t you see how violent places like Afghanistan are? Culturally ingrained violence? Why is this not clearly related to how they treat their children?[/quote]

So killing is the same as spanking. Ok. If it were it would be illegal. Come on. I don't spank but this is an extreme view. I am also pro-life and have a view that many would not agree with...[/quote]

If you can’t see a direct line from being abused as a child to being an abusive and violent adult then you are beyond reason. No, that is not an “extreme” view.[/quote]

I'm with you but what about the millions of people that were spanked and are not violent. Nobody is addressing that. My friends that were spanked and spank now aren't violent. This is very extreme to me. [/quote]

[b]If they spank their own kids then they ARE violent[/b]. Many kids who are abused do not abuse others but many do. Not sure what you think that proves.[/quote]

Shut up Karen, you have ZERO clue what violence mean.

Educate yourself!

https://time.com/3387226/spanking-can-be-an-appropriate-form-of-child-discipline/
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Look at the repeated rude and hostile comments by pro-spanking DCUMers! They call people names and bullying insults. Obvious connection on display right here.[/quote]

PP, she called people violent for spanking.

I don't spank my kids, but I don't disagree with it. Same as Abortion.

So yes, I guess you need to educate yourself.

FYI, Virginia allows for, “Corporal Punishment.” That means that spanking and other forms of physical punishment is permitted. However, it is limited to “reasonable” physical punishment in “due moderation.”

https://law.lis.virginia.gov/admincode/title22/agency40/chapter141/section150/[/quote]

Did you read your link?  Is this a test to see if we did?  It links to laws governing foster homes, specifically Discipline of Children.  It states, "There shall be no physical punishment, rough play or severe disciplinary action administered to the body such as, but not limited to, spanking, striking or hitting with a part of the body or an implement, pinching, pulling or roughly handling a child, shaking a child, forcing a child to assume an uncomfortable position (e.g., standing on one foot, keeping arms raised above or horizontal to the body), restraining to restrict movement through binding or tying, enclosing in a confined space, or using exercise as punishment."

I don't see what you are referring to about reasonable physical punishment in due moderation.[/quote]

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