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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]any discussion of greek life always devolves into this type of argument on this board. the fact is that if you talk to the girls in sororities they are generally happy with the experience, and they are also welcome to drop out at any time if they are not. Its a social club, [b]why do we have to assign any more meaning to it than that? [/b]If the girls find their "home" great, if its not for them,, great. Why grown women (and possibly men) on this board care one way or the other, I simply don't understand.[/quote]

For one thing, it's school sanctioned [/quote]

And rush is organized by the school. They could choose to be more humane. [/quote]

How many more years will it take for someone to hit a public school with an ADA or 1984 complaint based on rush? [/quote]

Overdue. But when a school gets a reputation of having an especially brutal rush and moms start steering their daughters to the other major state U because of it (true story), a sorority will give a bid  to someone with obvious differences (Down’s) for a PR stunt to show how “inclusive” are.  [/quote]

Stories like this are based on a very limited number of schools.

Generally speaking though sororities run the gamut from groups with all one type of young women to groups with all types.  Sororities vary from school to school and the most snobby sorority at one school might be the most laid back at another school.

One problem that happens in rush is most freshman will go through the process and pick the group that matches their "fantasy self" - the young woman they imagine they might be sometime in the future - instead of picking the sorority that matches their real self.  So the girl who wants to be outgoing and bubbly and popular but is really a bit more shy and reserved tries really hard to get into the outgoing bubbly popular all the time sorority and is crushed when she doesn't get accepted. She passes up the group of young women who are a bit more reserved but are just as fun and kind as the other sorority and have just as many activities going on but don't appear to be the most popular.

Another problem that happens is most freshman fail to understand that during rush the sisters are like sales people. They are really good at selling the sorority experience. They make everyone feel like they love them and want them in their group. That's so the rushee feels like she wants to be in that group.  It can be hard to look past that and decide which group has the best sales people vs. which group has the best people for her. [/quote]

This is my whole point pages ago. There is a sorority for everyone who wants to be in one. There is no such thing as  "reject" sorority. It may be a less social, more nerdy or smaller sorority but who's to say that isn't the best fit for the rushee? Most girls at age 18-19 want to be popular, especially in a new school, so they naturally gravitate to the more popular sororities who simply can't take everyone.  That does not mean that there's not a house there for them if they are open minded about perhaps a house they hadn't heard of before. You go through the process and get to know everyone the best you can, then decide.  You have to give the process a chance for it to work, and even if you accept a bid somewhere you're unsure about, you can always drop before initiation and try again. It's just not this horrid experience from start to finish. Yes cut days are HARD, very hard. But in the end, you can have a good experience and end up with a group of likeminded sisters which really helps create friendships and bonds that hopefully will last a lifetime.

I am not a pro-greek person, though I was greek and i have absolutely no problem with my DC being greek or not being greek. I just don't understand all the vitriol from people who clearly have no idea first hand of what happens. Yes there are bad stories everywhere, but by in large, woman are happy in sororities and feel it's worthwhile. So why if you do not wish to be in one, do you need to denigrate those who do?[/quote]

Blaming the hurt girls again. Both of you.

None of us can speak to every school in the country, and I’m happy for you that you had a good experience, but a lot of girls have a horrendous experience and the schools could do better if they cared.  If every girl got three choices on the last night, you would have a point.  There are lots of girls who have one. That’s not how it’s supposed to work, and that’s not a choice.

These kids are 18, stop expecting them to handle it like a 40 year old. [/quote]

Not sure what you are talking about, each girl gets only one  bid, that’s how sorority match works.[/quote]

I’m not talking about the bid.  I clearly said “the last night”, where normally you have a list of three to rank. The bid comes the next day.[/quote]

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