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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"We are crazy about our kids and happy to be so present."

Your DH is not present. Stop kidding yourself.[/quote]

I suppose our presence in our DCs lives triggers some emotion in you (guilt?  fear?  frustration?) that makes you pretend to know more about my life than I do.  If it makes you and PP who made a similar comment feel better to imagine that I am parenting all alone and DH secretly hates me and our DCs are suffering because of our marital strife - and whatever else you'd like to make up and picture in your own heads about an anonymous poster on an online forum - then by all means, be my guest and imagine away. I hope it helps you - it doesn't affect me either way.

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I guess my comment is that when your kids are older, you'll realize the SAH vs. WOH divide is irrelevant in the long run. No parent, SAH, WAH or WOH, can stay in touch with their children while said children are away at school full time. I hang with my middle schooler at the bus stop every morning ( we eat breakfast together too), then he's gone for 8.25 hours from the time the bus comes until it returns him to the bus stop in the afternoons.  I could WOH or SAH but still couldn't directly see or hear how his day is going for those 41 + hours a week.  This whole thing matters so much less than parents of young kids make out.[/quote]

It is more a developmental difference. My 5 or 6 kids have the independence, skills and development to be gone all day. the first few years of a child's life are when they learn 90% of everything they will ever know and it establishes the foundation of who they will be as a person so developmentally it is a big difference. I wouldn't put my 2 yr old on a bus and send them away for the day - developmentally not appropriate.  My five year old  - sure. [/quote]

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