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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]" He is a devoted husband and father and feels closer to the kids because I spend so much time with them"

Absentee spouse and father feels closer to the kids  because YOU spend so time with them.  WTF? [/quote]

Try reading the entire post rather than look for pieces to pull out and pounce on.  I repeat. he works long hours, BUT MANAGES THE FAMILY TIME PRETTY WELL.  He is in no way, shape or form, an absentee spouse or father.  Would we love it if he was home by 5 every afternoon - yes!  But that just isn't our reality.

[b]And yes, because DH and I talk several times a day about all the cute stuff the baby did and what's going on with the older DCs, even while he is away, he feels connected.[/b]  That does mean that is his ONLY interaction with us.  Geesh, people.

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whatever works for you - fine

But talking about the kids is NOT the same as parenting them.  You may as well send him videos when he's away. What's the difference?[/quote]

You are either slow, didn't read my entire post, or are just desperately looking for little pieces of posts to attack to make yourself feel better about something.

I repeat - DH DOES parent.  He is a very involved spouse and father.  However, he cannot parent from the office.  When he is at work - we stay connected.  This is NOT the only way he connects with us, don't be ridiculous.

If we both WOH, other than calling to check in with the daycare or nanny - we wouldn't have the same experience.  A hired provider would not share the same level of interest or excitement about every little thing that our offspring did that day and would not relay it in the same way.    We are crazy about our kids and happy to be so present.

I'll say it one more time for good measure.  DH does not vicariously parent through me.  He is very involved with his children, WOH full time, works long hours but has flexibility.  Spends quality time with the DCs.  Even during hours at the office, stays connected (through me, better than he could otherwise.) Get it?

I don't get how WOHMs have jumped all over this comment.  My DH WOH full time and is in a field of work that requires some long days.  But no one would dare call a WOHM with a demanding career an absentee mother or say that she is not parenting - oh, no, gasp!

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