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[quote=Anonymous]This stuff rarely ends well. OP, if you have a good relationship with your dad and money has been discussed in the past without acrimony, it may be worth a conversation. If your sister is dictating renovations to her specifications, you could say - hey dad, I noticed Sally seems to be directing the renovations to your house to her specifications, has there been a change in plans where Sally and her family intend to move in or begin using the house more often? See what he says and go from there.

If he says no, Sally is just helping me because I'm not that interested in overseeing this work/she likes doing it/etc; then maybe Sally really is angling, but it doesn't matter. If he tells you that he has made changes to his estate, then you know and there isn't anything you could or should do about it, because it is his asset, to do what he wants to with it. I would not say it would be unreasonable to ask why he's made such a change and ask if brother is also aware of the change. Beyond that, if you try to pressure him to change things again, you get into a sticky situation where your sister could accuse YOU of elder abuse and trying to get your dad to leave more to you. So, overall, you are kind of stuck, but I get wanting to know. I would ask, if the relationship is such that you can. [/quote]

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