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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What he said wasn't necessarily off/wrong but what is telling is that when you told it him made you uncomfortable, he responded in the way that he did--dismiss your feelings ('overthinking it') and then turning it on you (accusing you of punishing him when you told him that you were uncomfortable). That tells me that you and he are not at all compatible. I mean, you just had a talk about becoming exclusive, and the first thing he does is downplay your feelings so....[/quote]

Here's the thing. Just because you have "feelings" doesn't mean that the situation warrants your suspicions.

What really bugs me about this thread is that if we're taking OPs post as facts - then all the OP did was be upfront, honest, and say he wanted to break things off with others in person. OP doesn't really have a role in that - the BF didn't even have to tell her. If he wanted to be disingenuous, then all he would have to do is say nothing. But OP wanted to dictate how HE ended things with others - when they were not exclusive. For OP to feel "uncomfortable" with someone who doesn't feel good about ending things through text simply because she's not the one affected is childish and self-centered.

And then everyone piles on to say OP is shady? Based on what? Based on the fact that he had the nerve to say he wanted to end things on his terms before he's exclusive with OP? That's being shady? You people want minions not true partners. You can express your feelings - doesn't mean you get your way. WTF.[/quote]

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