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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you are the anti adoption poster, do you think all adoption is wrong? I agree we should do more to allow people to parent their kids but given all the abused and dead kids I keep reading about you might be better served to try and work with those parents who kept their kids only to be cruel to them. My adopted child’s bio mom was raped. She didn’t want an abortion but knew she couldn’t love this child. She made the right choice for herself and her child in placing her for adoption. The bio Das has no clue, because he was a rapist. We know lots of other adoptive families and none of them have a savior complex, we just love our kids. [/quote]

No, i do not think all adoption is wrong. I have not said that nor has anyone said this in this thread. I also would never describe myself as "anti adoption," and probably not the others either. I wish your family the best!

But the numbers of babies or very young children for adoption is greatly declined, and I think that's a good thing. Families are being preserved. International adoptions are down. Women are just less likely to give up their kids. I think this is a good development overall (just not for people who want to adopt). Meanwhile lots of older kids, many with special needs, and sibling groups in foster care need loving people in their lives.

Adoption in previous generations was sold as "poor infants in need!" When OFTEN (not always) it was really baby snatching from vulnerable women. But the former savior narrative makes everyone feel good.

If aspiring adoptive parents hear "adoption has trauma in it," I would like to know that they appreciate that, want to read more about it, want to do the best they can, rather than "no I can't hear that, God gave me this baby! Love is all we need!"

Really, it didn't have to go in this direction if some PPs here had a hold on reality.

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Start your own thread and get some mental health treatment.[/quote]

DP. Sorry but the comment above IS relevant to this thread. It brings up a differing perspective which does not mean it should not be welcome if people want to have honest insights as to adoption and the process. If you don't agree that's fine but telling someone they have a mental health issue because they have a differing viewpoint actually speaks more to your own mentality than the PP.  [/quote]

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