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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think how much and where you go is a combination of your values and your income; many LMC and MC families I know may have unusually nice cars or tvs but don't travel. Not everyone cares to and I certainly don't begrudge them their choices. My DH grew up more middle class than me and barely ever traveled beyond his own state until he was in high school and started traveling b/c of his extracurriculars. [/quote] This is kind of us. We're in the middle income wise. While we don't do extravagant travel, it's still pretty nice. The tradeoff is our cars. They're functional, but we drive them into the ground and don't make having a nice car a priority.[/quote] A lot of people didn’t grow up traveling and as adults they have the means but literally don’t know how. Or they know how to get themselves to a beach and sit on it one week a year. But they don’t know how to plan for a trip to a city or country they’ve never been to. The notion of going somewhere they’ve never been, walking around, becoming part of the local culture temporarily, seeing the interesting unique things every area has to offer never crosses their mind because they never have done it. I am so grateful my dad prioritized that for us growing up. My family takes the coolest trips because I know how to travel. Friends of mine with more money just take cruises or go to OBX despite having the means for way better travel. But it’s a skill they don’t have. [/quote] I think it’s more of a generational thing as well. I didn’t grow up going be to lots of places but can plan a trip pretty well. Because you…the internet. It’s not a complicated skill like you make it sound. [/quote] Of course it doesn’t seem complicated if you know how to do it and don’t find it intimidating. I am not making this up. [b]There are people I know who DO NOT feel comfortable going a place they have never been and just winging it themselves. So they don’t. They know how to vacation. They do not know how to travel.[/b] [/quote] Please, just because they have no desire to go to London doesn’t mean they don’t know how or that there is much skill involved. Effort yes, skill no. Some people prefer familiar things and there is nothing wrong with that, nor is there anything inherently virtuous about “cool” or international travel vs OBX. [/quote] I think you missed pp’s point. Obviously there are lots of people who are well traveled internationally but would prefer to sit at their beach house in MD. Nothing wrong with that at all. Doesn’t change the fact that planning an international trip is intimidating for those who never traveled farther than the smoky mountains.[/quote] Exactly. We are talking about two different groups of people. Yes some people can and know how to travel and don’t by choice. Some people LITERALLY DONT KNOW because they’ve never done it. I have no idea why people are pretending the first group existing means the second doesn’t. [/quote] Yup. This is my DH's family to some extent. They talk about wanting to travel but simply don't know how. I have planned and gone on some trips with them and it's hard. Even stuff like "how will I get to and from the airport", they need help with. They worry a lot about money when they travel, even though they have plenty of money for the kinds of trips we take, simply because they are very nervous about the unknown. I think they are also very ripe for getting taken advantage of because of how inexperienced they are -- I think about the grifters who prey on travelers in a lot of popular tourist destinations and how some of my ILs might not understand the grift at all. My DH is not this naive, but before we met, most of his travel was arranged by other people. He'd been on great trips organized by friends and classmates where his job was to show up on time and book his own air travel, which he can handle. Even now, I definitely do most of the planning because I'm just better at it, though I definitely encourage him to do a lot more of it simply so he understands how it works a bit more. We are absolutely showing our kid how to travel, and that it doesn't have to be expensive or fancy, so that she has more options as an adult.[/quote] I just don't know anyone like this, despite growing up poor/LMC. When and if they do decide to do new travel that they have never done before, they book trips and figure out transportation to and from the airports in Disney and Pigeon Forge. I personally have never met an individual who desires a different type of travel but are unable to execute it due to "they LITERALLY DON'T KNOW how to plan for a trip to a city or country they’ve never been to".[/quote] Oh well I’d you never met them they must not exist. My husband when we met was able to plan about two types of trips: Disney and a cruise. Why? That’s all he’d ever done. His parents had money when he was growing up but they grew up poor and didn’t know how to travel or plan trips. All they ever did was a cruise and big family trips to Disney. That’s what he knew. The first time he went to New York City he ate in Times Square the whole time because chains were familiar (which is another quirk of people who don’t travel much - even when they do, they stick to restaurants they know and can eat at anywhere). He’s more adventurous now but when it comes to scoping a place out, planning the best itinerary, finding all the various modes of travel (do we fly in here, then overnight train to here or there to fly out?) he still leaves that up to me. The first time I just suggested a city to go to and explore for a trip he was like “why?” I have no clue why some of you insist that EVERYONE just intuitively knows how to travel and can do it and are so irate when others mention no, a lot of people out there never did it growing up and don’t know how as adults. [/quote] I never did it growing up, and I just figured it out as an adult. I figured it out because I like to have good travel experiences. I really love travel planning, always plan "the best" itineraries, optimize transport, etc. etc. etc I think it is much more about personality than "knowing how" to do it. Choosing to eat at a chain in times square is a certain personality type, someone who knows what they like and don't crave variety/adventure. Even with zero research, your husband could certainly walk into a non-chain new untested restaurant and figure out how to eat a meal.[/quote]
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