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Has OP clarified how far away the cousin lives? Like, is her house a 15 minute drive or is it more like an hour from the beach house?

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She lives 30min away.

Her brother owns a beach house across the street. I asked her to stay there this year but she argued that we wouldn’t get to see each other this year bc the baby naps twice a day. I found this to be a little ridiculous but also I’m not here to argue with a new mom or tell her how she was “wrong”. We had the the bedroom so despite being worried about so many bodies and her previous years of enjoying the beach and not pitching in. [/quote]

This will build in you until you confront her and you will dread next year until you do. Having multiple families in one house means everyone pitches in, yes even with "not your kids" if you want to be in the house. Your night to cook: take care of it, even ordering. It all sounds ridiculous that she thinks she can just sit around and not do her part in a community house. I have to go on  family vacations (IL's) every other year. The deal they've always had is you cook once in the week for the entire group...it's a pain, a lot, but the other nights I get to eat for no effort. It's just the deal. And I was childless for over a decade. If we were out and a kid was crying/needing something/parents were stressed, I naturally stepped in. Not my kid, but I'm human. Sounds like your cousin is lazy and has gotten away with it for years. She doesn't want to stay across the street b/c then she would have to feed her family and clean up for herself. And deal with her dh working and talking on the phone (rude).

Call her. Say with more and more people/kids, everyone has to pitch in and you noticed her not. Ask if she's ok. But be clear it annoyed you. Anything else, you'll continue to stew about and ruin your vacation again next year and stress about it in the meantime. Just confront it. 
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