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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow, some of you outsources must not be saving very much money! We net about 55k a month after taxes and retirement, etc. which is about where I assume the OP shakes out. I wouldn't dream of thinking we are too rich to clean up after ourselves! I can't believe people are telling her to hire a housekeeper so she doesn't have to do her own dishes or clean up the crumbs after dinner. That's some Kardashian level shit imo.

And if I was going to splurge, I'd much rather splash out on an amazing once-in-a-lifetime bucket list level trip for the whole family for the kind of money ya'll are spending on housekeepers. Something you can EASILY do on your own. Takes 15/20 minutes to wipe down the counters, load the dishwasher, pack food away, and sweep the floor.

If you make 1-2M a year or more? Than yeah sure outsource away. But 750k with 2 kids in private and college to pay for someday is not rich enough for that type of lifestyle.[/quote]

Another completely delusional poster. You net 55k A MONTH? What do you do for that 55k per month? Seriously... many people net that per year here. [/quote]

DH nets 35k per month and bonuses 500k-1m per year.

We spend about $1500 per month on housekeeping and I’m a SAHM. We have someone deep clean every other week and another person who helps cook, do laundry, tidy up part time.

We do not live a lavish lifestyle but we do live in a large house. I don’t know who thinks a housekeeper makes 150k. People on this site are not in touch with reality.[/quote]

You have to pay taxes on bonuses.[/quote]

My point was people above made it seem like getting housekeeping help was not attainable for 12-30k and it is.

I don’t work and still need housekeeping help. [b]Op can and should get similar paid help plus a few more hours from the nanny.[/b]

I used to have a full time nanny, house cleaners, tutor and a mother’s helper when I was still working. It was too much outsourcing for me.[/quote]

Absolutely -- OP CAN afford more domestic help (no need to spend $150k  :roll:  :roll:  :roll: ) and she SHOULD get it.

When it comes to non-kid related domestic tasks, she should spend about 15 minutes each evening cleaning up from dinner, throw dishes into dishwasher, quick wipe down of eating/cooking area, and quick simple tidying up/de-cluttering around house.  That's it -- she shouldn't be doing anything else by way of domestic tasks if she values her physical and mental health.
 
She can and should outsource (through some combo of nanny, housekeeper, meal service, cleaning lady, whatever -- not saying to get all, just find coverage) for all deep cleaning, all laundry, grocery shopping, and also "dinner" during the week (so someone else meal plans, shops for, and prepares weeknight dinners).

I mean, it's not like OP is lazy -- she's working into the night at a demanding job, spending time with her kids, etc.  [/quote]

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