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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I lost my mother last year after she battled cancer for several years, and this year my father decided to remarry. We are all happy for him. My mother's family has also given their blessings. My husband made a comment initially about "rebound" and told me to tell my dad to take it slow. I took his concerns seriously and talked to my dad. My dad felt that he had made a well thought out decision in the right frame of mind and felt good about moving forward. I told him I supported him.

When I mentioned this conversation with my husband, to my surprise, he didn't seem to agree with me. He said, parents are like kids sometimes, you just have to tell them what to do. This is not the relationship I have with my father.

A few days ago I told my husband the date for the wedding (we will watch on zoom). He asked me if I had talked to my father about his will. Would his new wife be the beneficiary? What about her kids from a previous marriage? My response to my husband was that if there is a change to my dad's will he would let me know but I am not going to ask.

Now I feel my husband has been playing a game all along. This is very hurtful and petty. To add to it all, the other day my husband asked me with a smirk how old my new step mother is and whether she is that much older than us. (she is 58, my dad is 68). I just said, "I don't know, I have not asked."

My father spent years caring for my ailing mother. Waking up nights with her, taking her to the hospital for her treatments. He deserves this and so much more. It is shocking to see my husband behave like this.

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You and your dad sound great. He deserves his happiness. He spent years caring for your mom, so he's probably not going to make a foolish mistake and change his will to leave you with little to nothing. BUT. I've seen very smart, rational and very sensible men make foolish financial decisions after they fell head over heels for certain women.

We can't tell if the dad will have a marriage that lasts decades or just a few years. But if it only lasts a few years or he passes in a decade and leaves everything to the wife, don't post to DCUM about how upset you are about what ended up in his will.

Personally, I'm in the camp that kids shouldn't expect an inheritance,  that it's just bonus if it happens. I want my parents to spend down the about $3-4 millions they have to enjoy the next 10-30 years they have left (they are 72 and 75). If there's something left over, great. If not, that's fine, I am not counting on any inheritance. So frankly, I wouldn't say anything to Dad in OP's position.

But I understand where the husband is coming from. OP's husband may be acting like a jersey but he thinks the dad might make foolish decisions and that OP will end up upset in the future. [/quote]

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