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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]But when asked &quot;what do you want in a man&quot; (&lt;-- google that Q) women ignore all that and instead the answer is stuff like &quot;good provider; good communicator; vulnerable; meets my emotional needs; treats me like an equal; caring at heart&quot;. Men who focus on THESE things will not do well.[/quote]

The issue here is not that women are lying about what they want - people can want those characteristics, but if you're not attracted to someone, you're not.  And there's no magic formula to guarantee an attraction, for men or for women.

But here's the real issue: if you're cultivating these characteristics SOLELY BECAUSE you think it'll get you laid, that's 1) extremely obvious and 2) ENORMOUSLY offputting.  Men who treat kindness, respect and communication like a coin they put in a vending machine and out comes sex -- ugh, I don't care how hot or rich you are.  I will not want to f*ck you.[/quote]

There's no magic formula, but there are things you can do to be more attractive in general if you're a man or a woman. If you find out that a guy improved his wardrobe, lost some weight, and took better pictures for his dating profile, are you really going to find that off-putting? Or if he did an improv class to be more confident and funnier? You for sure shouldn't be entitled about it, but trying to be more attractive is not a bad thing. [/quote]

If he gets pissed off because some women turn him down despite him having done all that work, then yes.  I would find that very off-putting.  [/quote]

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