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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There are single dads from birth in. There are gay men who adopt babies. Many people have their babies in daycare by 23 weeks and away from mom.

There is no reason why men and in this case op’s husband can’t parent their children. Surprised so many are against fathers as equal parents.

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In my case, it’s not about mothers vs. fathers. I would not have been OK with DH leaving me alone for a week with the baby. I wouldn’t have been able to handle it. And no way in hell would I have tolerated it for something like this.

That being said, OP knows her family best and says it will be fine. Not everyone is the same.

The list of things for me that would cause me to be away from an 8 week old infant would be very short and wouldn’t include helping my dad when there are so many other options. It would be more like:

1. My other child is inpatient at the hospital;
2. Im inpatient at the hospital;
3. My dad is critically ill and literally needs someone to be at the hospital with him for life or death kinds of decision making. Even then, probably wouldn’t leave for a full week. I’d go for a day or two until someone else could step up.

I think it’s hard for some (including me) to relate to OP making such a different decision than we would and for her to be so confident about it.

I keep reminding myself everyone has different needs, priorities, values, skills, etc.

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As someone else pointed out upthread, it's incredibly common for military spouses to be home alone with infants for months at a time, often with older children at home as well.  Outside of knowing how DCUM can go crazy on any thread for really random reasons, I do not understand why this is such a big deal to some people. [/quote]

At the very top of the thread OP said she was nervous about it. Why do you think she’s nervous about it? Her DH sounds extremely capable and already spends significant time caring for the baby.

And yet. She’s nervous. Why? Because she’s a new mother and being away from a newborn causes a primal sort of pain.  I personally wouldn’t do it for the simple reason that I would not want to.

But. It sounds like OP is doing it, and guess what? The baby will be “fine.” The one who will suffer is OP. [/quote]

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