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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OMG I'm DYING at someone thinking they are superior to me because they make 210k.

Oh honey. Talk about having a small life! You don't even know that is not a lot of money.

I feel sad for her.[/quote]

Ok I wouldn't have said it like this because it's mean but yes. I cringed at that too.[/quote]

Hi, I’m the pp you’re referring to!

I never said it was the money that makes me superior. I just can’t imagine feeling fulfilled in life doing...well nothing.  I’m sure you get to travel and shop but you are kind of worthless (in my view).

Again I would never say this to your face.

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I’m cringing for you. [/quote]

+ 1

I guess we see how she rates her children though! It's "worthless" to spend time with them! [/quote]

I agree, but I also have pity for her. I find a lot of ppl in this area (men and women) who define themselves by their jobs. It is the one thing I hate about this area. I grew up on the W Coast where people actually have conversations rather than asking what you do/who you know and losing all interest if you can’t help them somehow. It’s great to have a job that you love, but it’s just as bad to pin all your self worth on your career as it is on your kids. There has to be a balance and you have to be someone outside of work, ideally with a loving family and community involvement. And judging by the vitriol she’s spouting, I’m going to guess she doesn’t have that balance. Sad! I hope for her kids’ sake that they have other positive influences in their lives... [/quote]

I don't know a single working mom who defines themselves by their job.  Not one.  And some of them have pretty major jobs.  Talking about what you do doesn't mean you're defining someone's worth by their answer.  It's an interesting way to learn about someone and about the things that they do that you might know nothing about.  So you can be "sad" all you want for PP, but your negative attitude is equally as disgusting.[/quote]

I don’t know a single SAHM that defines herself completely by her children. So the idea that she is a waste to society is a joke. If you think she has nothing to talk to her about ask her. Trust me, she likely has plenty of other interests, life stories, a former career, an education, places she has lived and traveled to, causes she is involved with... [/quote]

Opposite of what I’ve experienced.  I find it hard to be friends with SAHMs because everything revolves around their children.  They seem way less likely to want to do anything without children involved.  They go on fewer date nights, don’t travel with friends, etc.  I assume some of this is because they are living off one paycheck.

FWIW almost everything you listed above is in the PAST.  The SAHM has a previous career, travelED places etc.  That’s the problem.  If you work and are friends with SAHMs, it’s easy to see how you’re moving forward in life and they aren’t.  The SAHM gives up major parts of her life to stay at home with children.   There are extremely wealthy women who still manage to maintain an identity, but these are not the norm.

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I mean, sorry to be mean, but I would assume this is because you yourself are not rich. If you were, you'd move in a crowd where it's the norm for SAHMs to have full or part time help, private school for multiple children, date night once or even more a week, 4-5 vacations + a second home somewhere.

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Agree.  There are real class differences that account for these various experiences people are reporting.  It's all apples and oranges.[/quote]

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