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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The friend wasn’t looking for a place to rent at the beach. He also wasn’t shopping around for 3 months of free accommodations. He was simply excited about being invited to live with his buddy at the beach for the summer. What makes the friend (or his mom) a freeloader if there was no mention of a lease and rental fees until after the invitation was accepted?

And don’t forget, the reason for inviting the friend wasn’t because the family wanted to rent out their glorified shed; it was because OP’s son didn’t want to spend the whole summer away from all of his friends. If one of my friends wanted me to rent crappy accommodations (that cost them almost nothing!) from them for several months just so that they’d have me around to entertain them, I wouldn’t feel like that was a great deal.[/quote]

That’s a child’s view. Someone else should pay for my housing if they want to be my friend. If it doesn’t work for him just decline the offer. It’s asking a lot to be a guest for 3 months. Some people have enormous homes and lots of extra room and feel like entertaining a guest for months on end. That’s a very small group. That don’t have a tiny old cottage. [/quote]
You must have grown up very poor or been raised by stingy people to be so worried about the nominal cost of having a friend use water and electricity for the summer. “I want a friend nearby, so please stay in the shed behind my beach house so I won’t be lonely. P.S. You’ll need to pay me.” There’s no way to spin that that doesn’t sound like a major social feau pas. Sure, the kid should definitely contribute something in exchange for staying on their property, but this was handled very poorly.[/quote]

I agree. The sad thing is the son and friend are probably now embarrassed beyond belief.  They may not find jobs and probably only p/t at that age.

Does this old house have smoke detectors, and fire extinguishers? Are the smoke detectors frequently checked?  That would be my main concern if I allowed guests to use it from time to time. [/quote]

You're clueless. Beach towns actually import workers from Europe and South America to fill vacancies. There's an enormous shortage of seasonal workers.[/quote]

No I'm not, but they are looking at this as their summer vacation. OP wants to charge rent to a kid who doesn't have a job, lol. And it's her son's friend who was invited. The invitation was accepted. Then they sprung the rent and lease on the mother after the fact. That's pretty crappy!!!

OP you're not even a owner. In the future let the owners deal with it, your communication is somewhat skewed imo. [/quote]

You are wrong and it has been pointed out a dozen times on this thread. The rent was not 'sprung' on him. [b]And if he came at it from the POV that he was going to live there for free then he's a deadbeat that would not treat the house with respect anyway. Bullet dodged.
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No one has said anything about employment. Maybe they had jobs lines up. Maybe they didn't. It doesn't matter because if you have a pulse you can have any job you want.[/quote]

OP has never said that she even told the kid himself about the rent, just that she brought it up to his mom who was upset.  I think it's overboard to impute all these negative attributes to a kid who may not even know why he's out of the house this summer.  [/quote]

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