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Well the OP came here looking for opinions and advice so that's kind of what's done here. Let me make this easy for you. If someone posted that their mother was giving the kid candy and they didn't like that I would say well if the kid is diabetic that is a hard no but if not I'd say to lighten up. So in this case if it is forbidden I'd say "Tell your mom it is a hard no and why" if it is just a matter of preference I might suggest relaxing a bit in the interest of family harmony. Being an adult doesn't mean you get to do what you want when you want, being a true adult means considering how other people feel and making reasonable accommodations sometimes for the benefit of someone else. [/quote]

Giving advice is "you should try this"

Giving advice is not "You should try this" "that won't work for me" "well you had better tell me exactly why, if you don't see it my way you are not an adult, why are you still arguing with me" etc, etc etc.  That is haranguing.

Clearly OP does not agree with your approach.  You are not helping her, and do not appear to be here to help.  You appear to be here to argue. (And perhaps to attack an approach to Jewish life you do not like)

Being a true adult  would be to recognize when your advice has turned into nagging and haranguing and yes trolling.  An easy accomodation for you would be to walk away from this.

Its not up to you to judge what is a hard no, when she should lighten up, etc.

I am a Jew who married another Jew, so thank heaven I was never in this situation.  I personally would have seen this is the way the OP is seeing it - something to say no to without needing a hard and fast halachic ban to justify it.

Only difference (aside from me knowing the specific brachot) is that I would have had the sense to quickly realize when I am facing DCUM's ignorant  know it alls, and walk away.

I hope OP will learn to do that.  [/quote]

I never even addressed the OP except to ask my questions. THe only person I've argued with is you who seems incapable of engaging in any kind of rational conversation at all. Frankly it is not for anyone to tell her what to do except that she came here asking just that. I haven't told her what I think she should do because I don't have all the information, but given your unwillingness and OP's unwillingness  to answer the question I'm going to assume that it isn't forbidden and I would tell her that it is a good thing to model respect and concern for those in our lives and do the prayer when with the mother and not when she is without her. Clearly I hit some sort of nerve for you. Your name calling and animosity toward a total, digital stranger is unwarranted and maybe something you should reflect upon. I wish you the best. [/quote]

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