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Women have to maintain sex frequency/sex enthusiasm/kids/home/social planning/career.  I mean expectations of women are unsustainable.  I mean why should women even try since they’re set up to fail.[/quote]

MEN have to maintain sex frequency/sex enthusiasm/kids/home/social planning/career.  I mean expectations of MEN are unsustainable.  I mean why should MEN even try since they’re set up to fail.

Assuming women are the only ones who do the above is just disgustingly flawed and could only be puked out by a woman.

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When have you remembered to get your kids to the Dentist? 
Do you know where the winter clothes are?
Which of your kids is allergic to which antribiotic?
When is the last time you cooked a real dinner that includes the proper number of servings of vegetables?

If you don't understand the invisible work of women and their mental load....well...I'm not sure there is hope for you and you will remain a hateful angry jerk[/quote]

NP here, and one who wrote about having an affair up thread.  If I had to guess why my wife has zero drive for me, it would be a combination of boredom which is normal and resentment from scorekeeping like this.  FWIW, she is SAHM, so it seems fair to divide labor a little more traditionally, but perhaps you disagree.

All of this is honestly sad, since this is really why people have affairs.  My AP asks none of this, of course, is thrilled to see me, we laugh, share jokes, have sex and part again until another opportunity presents.  To be honest, as fun as it is, I would rather have that relationship with my wife, as affairs are risky and also mentally draining.  [/quote]

You would be surprised at the number of women who do know about affairs. SAHMs often don't confront because they don't want to lose their income or assets. Do you think your DW knew about your cheating way back when. Or other inappropriate relationships? I ask because I've known a few friends who have long term resentments because of cheating. I'm assuming you've tried counseling, or had in depth talks with her?  Have you told her this is a deal breaker for you?  Instead of sneaking around why not be honest? If nothing changes maybe divorce is the best option.  If my husband were cheating I'd avoid sex like the plague. Mainly because of disgust and fear of catching a disease.  [/quote]
Any wife (SAHM or not) would know that she's not having regular sex with her husband, right? That alone proves her man is definitely having an affair. Why do you persist in the illusion that his DW doesn't already know? She knows! She is not having sex with him... therefore he MUST BE having an affair. Simple math.[/quote]

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