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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Have any of you with the stingy "kitchen is closed" relatives,
who act like pigs when they come visit you, thought to do the same thing to them when they come to your house?

Say "the kitchen is closed" after breakfast and hide your food in your bedroom so they get to experience not eating anything from breakfast to dinner unless they also go out and buy food? Did it work to break them of the rude habit?

My MIL would tell us we couldn't eat[b] food we brought with us, to their house[/b]!! Instead they would tell us that "we have to save it for (another guest.) We continued to bring food but when MIL asked when we were serving it, I told her she would have to wait til the special guest showed up. She never did that again!

So have any of you decided to treat them like they treat you? I know.its petty and rude, but do you think it would do any good?
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Haha. Will try it next trip! [/quote]

I don't understand. Where do you keep food that you bring to their house? in the room or in the kitchen fridge? This is such an odd  and inconvenient setup, but i don't blame you.[/quote]

It's complicated, my parents are elderly controllers who don't like to cook. We brought the food to share with them. They knew we brought the food, want us to bring the food, and we put it in their refrigerator. They just don't want my dh and I to eat the food we bring, because my mom wants to "save it" for other guests coming later so she can pretend she's providing it for them. I would be more than happy to fix more food, but instead mom wants to feed us leftover 3 day old soup and save "the good stuff" I made for other siblings. Good times. Kind of the opposite of the kitchen is closed. But still dsyfunctional.

We solved the issue by doing to them what they were doing to us, in my case, denying us the food we brought for all of us to eat :lol: by telling them they couldn't eat it either. "No mom, I know you really want to have that tonight, but we're saving that casserole we brought for the special guests, not you, you can't have it. Here's that canned soup you told us to eat last time instead of the food we brought." That ended that problem! No more denying all of us the yummy food.

So when the "kitchen is closed" controller comes to visit your house, treat them exactly like they treat you. I've found that equal treatment usually solves the problem.

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