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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Every person who reproduces, men too, in their forties  actively and willfully ignores the health risks and repercussions (mother and child) of doing so. As does every woman over the age of 35 who gets pregnant.  That doesn’t mean they aren’t going to do it, it just requires a very special type of arrogance to do so. [/quote]

Sorry you had your kids in you twenties and missed out on a bunch of fun. But excuse me while I have my cake and eat it too![/quote]
+1. And Miss High and Mighty is suggesting that people who have kids after 35(!) are “arrogant” ?  Self awareness much? I assume that some young guy who didn’t know any better married her at 24 and knocked her up at 25, and now she thinks that she’s superior because of this. It’s not exactly a huge personal accomplishment, so get over yourself, lady. [/quote]

There is a lot of evidence that it’s risky, I’m not making that up. So, for well educated people who generally trust scientific evidence, it is A KNOWN risk factor to put off having kids. Willfully ignore these stats seems very arrogant to me.  You are saying, “yeah, all the science is saying it’s a bad idea, but I’ll do it anyway, because I’m just THAT awesome!”  And no, I don’t need to get laid nor did I have kids in my 20s nor did I get knocked up. I just Do not understand why well-educated people who can understand basic reproductive science, time, economics, etc.  wait around until their junk essentially goes bad to have kids. [b]Unless you get really unlucky, finding a good partner, establishing a career, saving money, getting a graduate degree, AND having fun is all completely doable in your 20s.  There is no good reason to wait until your forties to start having children. [/b] To me, it is unfair to your children - they have increased health risks, as do you, and you will be firmly middle aged before they hit middle school.  Ask anyone who had old parents growing up, it kind of sucks. And it’s completely avoidable. [/quote]

It’s called your 30s

Having kids in your 20s is dumb.  You should be focused on your career, having fun and saving money for a house/paying off any loans.

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