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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My first impression is -- awesome, that makes sense! Great to see another couple going this route.

We have different last names and are in the same professional field and it's been super convenient for it not to be obvious theat we are married (ie with recruiters). Who knew it would be so convenient.

Happily married. OTOH, [b]my best friend changed her name and got divorced, major pain and she regrets changing. [/b][/quote]

I support every woman doing whatever she wants but this argument always struck me as bizarre. Divorce is a terrible messy painful experience for all involved. It involves boatloads of paperwork and heartbreak. How is the name issue what people take away from it? [/quote]

Because it adds to the paperwork and heartache at an already difficult time. How is that hard to see? I mean it's not everything, but it's something. Not sure what is meant by "what people take away from it." [/quote]

It seems like a weird reason to not do it. Like you have your foot out the door.

And I have no problem at all with people who keep their name, it's just a weird reason.[/quote]

I can't see why you can't see that it's a big deal. It would be an enormous amount of paperwork and stress, every single time you go to any doctor or anywhere you need to tell them that you got divorced so your name is different now, possibly for years or decades (depending on the extent of your social life, professional life, medical life, etc). Alternatively, if you DON'T change your name back, then you need to be reminded of your ex and your potentially nasty divorce every time you write or say your own name or someone else says it. This wasn't the sole/main reason I decided to keep my own name, but I can imagine it playing a part for someone, especially someone who was on the fence. Think of it like insurance - a type of marriage insurance. Something to reduce your pain if your marriage doesn't work out, and it doesn't cost you a single thing.

It's pretty incredible that a woman should be seen as "having her foot out the door" for not doing something that men don't do either.[/quote]

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