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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your problem is your husband. Any adult friends with a brain should realize it is completely inappropriate for your dh to be bad mouthing you. Major marriage foul. [/quote]
Yeah, I've had friends who got married and badmouthed their spouses like this.  And I was like, why yes, your spouse IS unreasonable and jealous and controlling, but she was like that all along, and you married her anyway.  The occasional gripe is one thing, or needing a gut check as to whether a spouse is being unreasonable or not, but constantly complaining about your spouse is icky.  Either get a divorce or stop airing your dirty laundry.  [/quote]

Why would you keep getting together with someone like that?  They sound awful.[/quote]
I stopped, actually.  It helped that their possessive spouses didn't like them spending time with other people.  [/quote]

The wife could have been kind, reasonable, and mature -- maybe too trusting so oblivious that her husband was bad mouthing her to his friends.  Obviously the wife wasn't included in these meetings that you were having with her husband so she is at home taking care of the kids, maybe bring told it was a "guys night".  She's clearly not possessive if you are going out with the husband.  And maybe it wasn't a guys night and she wasn't a doormat like OP and so the husband didn't want to hang out with you anymore.  He realized that you were unhealthy for his marriage because he didn't know how to tell you that he had been lying.

[b]This thread makes me realize how insecure most of my guy friends are -- how many of them told me "no way" when I asked them if the new girl who they were into were "the one" and yet, how many of them got engaged to that same girl within half a year? [/b] I think we all need to give the absent spouse the benefit of the doubt.

I have to wonder if OP's spouse and your friend are the same person.[/quote]

Never met a guy like this in my life. Don’t  try to normalize this- it’s not how decent people behave.[/quote]

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