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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think if people are honest, they realize that the paradigm of "men must chase women" is most of the problem. This has been the rule for generations. Men were expected to chase and be persistent about it. Otherwise, they were regarded as  either wimps or gay. And that's not an exaggeration. Now it's suddenly changing to "men must chase women, but they must also follow increasingly stringent set of guidelines that can be altered at a whim." OK fine, don't pretend that things haven't changed. Things WERE different up until very recently. A lot of "bad" male behavior was socially expected up until very recently. Don't deny that the goal posts haven't been shifted.

The reality is that most men don't really even like having to "chase." They just do it because they have to. Some guys do like to chase. Those are probably the ones that are approaching you all the time. Trust me, 80% of men would prefer not to approach strange women or risk being viewed a creep. There just wasn't an alternative.

Maybe with the development of dating apps, men won't have to "chase" and then women won't have to deal with men approaching them all the time.[/quote]

I think this is spot on. I'm married now, but I never liked "chasing." I had no interest in wasting time or bothering someone who isn't interested. But, you just don't know if that cat is dead or alive unless you open the box.

The intensity of negative responses you got for this post really caught me by surprise. [/quote]

Most of the negativity is from the same poster. Her writing style is basically "if Joffrey Lannister was a feminist."[/quote]

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