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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think if people are honest, they realize that the paradigm of "men must chase women" is most of the problem. This has been the rule for generations. Men were expected to chase and be persistent about it. Otherwise, they were regarded as  either wimps or gay. And that's not an exaggeration. Now it's suddenly changing to "men must chase women, but they must also follow increasingly stringent set of guidelines that can be altered at a whim." OK fine, don't pretend that things haven't changed. Things WERE different up until very recently. A lot of "bad" male behavior was socially expected up until very recently. Don't deny that the goal posts haven't been shifted.

The reality is that most men don't really even like having to "chase." They just do it because they have to. Some guys do like to chase. Those are probably the ones that are approaching you all the time. Trust me, 80% of men would prefer not to approach strange women or risk being viewed a creep. There just wasn't an alternative.

Maybe with the development of dating apps, men won't have to "chase" and then women won't have to deal with men approaching them all the time.[/quote]

[b]so it's women's fault for confusing men by making rape culture unacceptable?[/b] [/quote]

This. Plus, I think the OP hasn’t ever seen the comments and photos women on dating apps receive unsolicited. Utterly vile and sometimes threatening. It’s as if simply signing up means you must be interested in seeing any random guy’s junk and hearing how he’s like to use it on you. [/quote]

Seriously. If I had a dollar for every woman I've known who had to shut down an online dating app after receiving a torrent of dick pics followed by vile misogynist insults and threats, I'd be rich.[/quote]

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